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BillieTheBot
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If one got in contact with you after 4 years and wanted to meet up with you for a drink, would you?
An ex of mine (a serious ex, first love, was with him for a year) has found me on Facebook (out of all places!!!) and we've been chatting on msn and stuff since and like, he keeps going on about meeting me.
We haven't really spoken much since we split up so like, I dunno, I'm just finding the idea of it a bit weird. I'm also slightly suspicious of his reasons for wanting to meet up with me so much as he has been ever so slightly flirtatious with me but then again, thats how he always was with me.
I feel like meeting up with him through curiousity to be honest, just for a catch up and what not but I dunno. I'm just a tad worried that if I see him again, I'll get all nostalgic and stuff. First love and everything
An ex of mine (a serious ex, first love, was with him for a year) has found me on Facebook (out of all places!!!) and we've been chatting on msn and stuff since and like, he keeps going on about meeting me.
We haven't really spoken much since we split up so like, I dunno, I'm just finding the idea of it a bit weird. I'm also slightly suspicious of his reasons for wanting to meet up with me so much as he has been ever so slightly flirtatious with me but then again, thats how he always was with me.
I feel like meeting up with him through curiousity to be honest, just for a catch up and what not but I dunno. I'm just a tad worried that if I see him again, I'll get all nostalgic and stuff. First love and everything
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In my circumstances, no. My most recent ex left the country without bothering to tell me, and while I bear no bitter feelings towards that, I wouldn't want to see him.
My other ex owes my parents money which he never gave back. I could probably deadlift him now as he was a scrawny little wimp, so
Are YOU wanting to go? What's the reasons putting you off going?
The thing that is stopping me from saying yes at the moment is WHY he wants to meet up with me. I should ask him really but I don't want to make a fool of myself. I could just be assuming things. Anyway, I don't want to meet up with him if he is going to try something on with me because that will make me feel really awkward. I also don't wanna end up feeling all nostalgic because as you know, I've got a pretty busy life right now and don't have time for boy nonsense, lol.
i's barely been 6 months for me, and I'm still so very much attracted to my ex
In my book, if you are over a person. In the sense of, you had or still have other happy relationships and after a time of 4(!) years I relate only veeeery little with that person. She will be just a person to get to know (if she did not cheat on me, abuse me, steal from me, or did any other fucked up things), and getting people to know is something I always put priority into.
He was my first love though, if I see him, meh, I dunno! You never forget your first love do you?
ETA: strubbs, he cheated on me the once when he moved to University in his freshers week which is what we split up over. Not that it makes it any better buttttt, he told me the day afterwards, cried his heart out down the phone saying he was sorry and realised he'd make a mistake. When I look back at how my next ex treated me and I let him get away with it, I look back at what happened in that relationship and think, welllll, maybe I shouldn't have been so harsh on him :chin: Its something I don't think about either now. I mean, he made a mistake, its 4 years on, it doesn't bother me.
Hm, I did...
I see no harm in meeting up with him. If it's crap nobody says you have to meet him again, or relate with him in any other sense. What are you afraid of? (If you stated it in the first post, I'm sorry, was a bit too long to read)
Oh, don't get me wrong, I'm completely over my exes and I am most certainly over him. I mean, I was in love again after him with someone I was with for three years. However, whenever I look back on my relationships, it is that one that I think about the most (not that I look back on my relationships much but yanno what I'm getting at!).
I dunno, you just remember your first love don't you? I don't feel anything for him but I do remember what we had. I thought that was normal :grump:
I'm not afraid to meet him as such. I just don't want him trying it on with me or anything. It would just piss me off as harsh as that makes me sound.
I agree that the first love is different to anyone else, but I think that if you're well and truly over him you should be fine to go meet up. Although it sounds to me that you're still thinking "what if..." just a little bit...forgive me if i'm wrong :chin:
Most of my exes are my best friends. I generally don't see that you'd go out with someone if you didn't have things in commmon and be good friends, so why lose that friendship when a relationship ends. So yeah, after the required distance time to get used to not being with them they end up still being the people I can confide in in life and know will be there for me.