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Sex After a Break up
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Ok, so, as you might all remember, i was dumped pretty harshly by my last girlfriend who was going off with one of her lad mates who is now her new boyfriend.
So, all my mates, friends and even Ex's from before that i stayed friends with are all telling me the same thing... "Go Get Laid!"
They all say i wont start getting ove rmy ex unless i get laid and its the best way to start "healing" or whatever.
Is that right? Is a random shag with some girl really the best way to get over been dumped and heart broken?
Comments very welcome.
So, all my mates, friends and even Ex's from before that i stayed friends with are all telling me the same thing... "Go Get Laid!"
They all say i wont start getting ove rmy ex unless i get laid and its the best way to start "healing" or whatever.
Is that right? Is a random shag with some girl really the best way to get over been dumped and heart broken?
Comments very welcome.
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I say do what feels right and take your own time to heal...don't just go & have a shag because that's how THEY'D deal with the situation!! Only do what you think's right for you. :yes:
Potentially, for all of five minutes
Perhaps test the waters with flirting on a night out and see how it makes you feel.
Although, that 5 minutes of feeling better does sound appealing, though i reckon it would be more then 5 minutes, more like an hour
I'm a firm believer if you want to do something that's right for you and feel is right for you, you just do it. No time spent on faffing about/what ifs and that, and given that you're a bit ambivalent to the idea where you might still be a bit raw from the break up it might be best to leave it until you do actually feel comfortable with it.
I'm exactly the same... probably doesn't help that I've not been out much since graduating and heading to another uni though.
Normally i really Love sex, but you know, it just feels... awkward? weird maybe is the right word.
Good advice.
Personally, I gave myself a while to get over my ex before I moved on to fooling around with guys again. If not, I would have been in an emotionally hung up state over my ex, and it wouldn't really help much. I just waited until I felt ready and the right situation arose
To be honest i think this would make me feel worse id like to get over somebody first before jumping in to bed with somebody else
even though you're not with anyone at the moment you may find yourself feeling guilty the first time you get it on with someone new, it's very odd...
good luck x
My thoughts. I don't think sex is the medicine to get over someone quicker as you have to sort a lot of emotional stuff out and getting laid does imho not accelerate this.
You might feel WHOA for a day, but then it's the same old feeling, you just have to overcome and just time will heal.
Moreoever if you stress about getting laid now and it's just not happening you are putting more pressure on yourself and become more miserable.
Agreed (again)
Personally, one night stands make me feel shit. I know that's not normal for a boy, but I always feel down after it, and you're probably more likely to feel like this if you've just split up with somebody - cause you won't see her again.
If it works for some then fair play, but shagging her out of my memory isn't the best way to deal with it for me :no: