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Going to uni leaving gf behind?
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Hi all got a bit of a dilemma at the moment, ive been offered a place at uni but it means leaving my gf behind.
im 25 and love her to bits, and to be honest i would be happy spending the rest of my life with her, and its really getting me down the thought of not being with her so just wanted to know if anyone else has made long distance relationships work?
hopefully it'll work and she'll come after a while, but to be honest im worried that ill regret going if goes wrong.
well thats my little purge done, i know at the end of the day its my decision but would like to get anyone elses opinion.
thanks
im 25 and love her to bits, and to be honest i would be happy spending the rest of my life with her, and its really getting me down the thought of not being with her so just wanted to know if anyone else has made long distance relationships work?
hopefully it'll work and she'll come after a while, but to be honest im worried that ill regret going if goes wrong.
well thats my little purge done, i know at the end of the day its my decision but would like to get anyone elses opinion.
thanks
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I've always believed that if you both want it to work bad enough then it will and you'll survive.
How old is she? What's she got to say about all this?
At the end of the day, as hard as it is, you have to think about what's right for you. And I'm sure if you're relationship is as great as you say it is, your girlfriend will support your decision and you'll have a good chance of staying together. Obviously, there is a chance that either you or your girlfriend (or perhaps both of you) will find the strain on your relationship too hard if you choose to go, but that's something you will have to face if you come across it.
Out of interest, have you spoken to your girlfriend about going? What does she say? One of the most important things is being 100% open and honest about how you feel and the decisions open to you both.
When I went to uni and left my girlfriend, she'd been pissing me off for a few weeks prior to my leaving and we didn't last longer than the first month or so. That said, I know several people who've gone through uni keeping their home relationship intact.
Good luck man, long distance relationships are a bitch so best buff up that wanking hand :thumb:
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Anyway, aye it was tough when she went to uni, but we got through it. If you keep strong and plough through it, you can make it work.
As for long distance relationships they can work. I've been in an LDR for almost 2.5 years now. I met my boyfriend whilst he was studying at my university on exchange from Norway and we were together for 6 months whilst he was in Scotland and then decided to keep it going after he went back to Norway. So for the last two years Ryanair has been an important part of our relationship and our carbon footprint is ever expanding
The important aspect is communication and trust. If you aren't seeing someone everyday/every weekend then you have to trust them, there's no room for being overly jealous so communication is important for that. How often will you be able to see each other? 200 miles- are the transport links good? Can you both drive/have access to a car? Will you both have access to phone/internet? These are important factors to look into and will be crucial in the upkeep of your relationship. If you are both dedicated to the relationship the distance won't be so much of a problem- more like an irritation! And you know that its not forever and there is always the possibility that she can move closer too and your degree is a set time anyway.
Good luck :thumb: