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Question about fancying friends
BillieTheBot
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Was having a chat to a few friends about unrequainted love and I mentioned something along the lines about how I fancy a friend of mine, but see no point in telling him because I know nothing can come out of it. (He's with someone)
So anyway, I got told to just go ahead and tell him, but is there really any point?
So anyway, I got told to just go ahead and tell him, but is there really any point?
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You wont know until you tell him.
:thumb:
What would telling him achieve?
Nothing I guess. I take it I've answered my question then?
I agree. Only open your gob if you think it has a quite good chance of going somewhere. I just prefer to suffer in silence.
Happened to me, and took me quite a while to recover from the knock back...:(
true... I used to go with your tactic in last october. I made friends with a girl through uni, and suddenly she was integrated in our uni-peers, and everyone got on with her.
Then I fell for her and told her. killed the friendship (on my behalf tho, found it better that way, don't ask), and now my friends still meet her, but me not^^
I wouldn't do it, sofie... maybe mention it on the side on some drunken night out, that he is the type of person you could imagine having a rlship, as a compliment thingy not a profess-the-love thingy. So at least then he knows, if you really want that. be careful.
I'm not going to do that. He's told me's happy with the person he's with now.
I'd leave it then for now. No point sticking your neck out for something that's not going to happen right now. You never know, at some point in he future you might end up both single and both up for it at the same time. Then you can stick your neck out.
I can only speak for myself, but either cut down the contact a bit and get distracted. Thinking of him only makes it worse, because you are of course only thinking about the good parts, or fantasizing, or find another person of interest...
This rarely works for me, but will give it another try.
its not worth it..:p
he isn't with anyone but fancy's a girl way hotter than me, but they don't know each other that well it's more of a fancy from afar.
i am going to tell him because since i've realised i feel very awkward around him and we end up arguing alot.
pretty sure he doesn't like me back but will tell him anyway to get it off my chest. can't imagine he'll hate me for it and hopefully we'll get over it in a few days.
dunno if this was helpful more just saying i know how u feel
i know i sound sorted but any advice would be appreciated.
thanks
If you do tell him, don't just say 'I fancy you' and walk off.
Update from me:
Have finally deided that telling him really isn't worth it and am going to try and move on. (which, currently is really hard:( )
They "other guy" wasn't a close mate, but he was still a mate, I told him I liked him and it's now over two years since we got together. I did wait until he was leaving the school until telling him outright, but I dropped plenty of hints beforehand, so in a way I did play it quite safe.
So for me, it was worth it. For the first guy, it didn't get him anywhere, and if anything only caused problems within the friendship group because he couldn't come to terms with the fact I wasn't interested.
The second time, I decided to bite the bullet, and tell the girl in question. However, on the day I was actually going to tell her, she approached me, and told me "Danny, I've bottled this up for a while, but I can't do it any longer. I've got to tell you - I really fancy you and me being more than friends". She looked like she thought I was about to reject her out of hand. Wrong! I was delighted! When she noticed I was feeling the same, we got together straight away.
My answer would therefore be - go for it. You'll never know if you don't say anything.