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Am i been too sensitive
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My b/f told me last night my body wasn't nice, at first i thought he was messing but then he didnt say anything else and i was too upset to say anything to him but i wouldnt let him near me all night, im a size 10- 12 and after a lazy winter could maybe do with losing a few Ibs and toning up for the summer.. He's always liked my body before so i dont now whats changed to make him say something so hurtful, Am i just been oversensitive??
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No I don't think you are. Have you asked him what he meant by it?
As you've said, you're aware of your own body and that maybe you could do with toning up etc. He could do with some beginner's lessons in tact. Maybe he can take an evening class in it while you go swimming or something...
i just said my body was nice and clean after my shower, and he said back to me it might be clean but its not Nice, so i said to him you think my body's not nice and he said yes thats what i said...
i haven't said anything to him yet because i was to upset yesterday but im gona say it when he comes home from work today, he's upset me so much im considering finishing with him cos if he doesnt like my body how can i feel comfortable sleeping with him.
That's totally out of order, you are definitely not being over sensitive, he's quite plainly being rude.
That's terrible!! Really mean of him to say something like that....I'd be upset too, don't think you're being oversensitive at all! Especially as he said it in such a blunt way....sounds like something might be going on with him, to be honest.....and you're right, if you can't feel comfortable with him, and you continue feeling uncomfortable with him, then that's a decent basis for finishing it...but might be worth talking to him about it first.
He doesn't sound very caring AT ALL.....how long have you been with him, if you don't mind me asking?
Ooo...also...interestingly (and not saying this IS your situation, but sounds similar), when I was with my ex, I had started getting slightly derogatory comments from him, but sort of just shrugged them off, and then when I broke my wrist, he was completely unsupportive....for instance, I had to have an op on my wrist at the hospital near him, and would have been to weak and it would have been too hard to make the journey back to mine afterwards.....he didn't even offer for me to stay!!
It took my best friend (who was house sharing with him) to offer...:rolleyes:
He got less and less supportive, and finally dumped me.....which I could have done without to be honest! :rolleyes: If you're going through problems with your heart, and having to have operations, you need people around you who are supportive..extra stress won't help you at all.
What do you think about that, all there in black and white? What would you say if that was your friend's bf, or your sister's?
Is he trying to push you out of the relationship instead of ending it like any decent bloke would do?
I know your mum has said you can't go and live with her, and I also know he's said you'll lose everything if you leave, but if the flat is in both your names then you won't. I think you ought to get some legal advice, because it seems like you're just clinging onto this relationship because you think there's no way out.
Seconded.
He sounds like a bit of a dick, to be fair.
The guy is a complete cunt, why you are still with him is beyond me!
Good luck though...I know it's hard...:thumb:
Noone deserves to be treated like this and I think the suggestion about getting some financial advice is a very wise move. If you leave him now you certainly won't be losing everything, I personally think you will be gaining a whole new world of happiness.
Couldn't agree more. Both Miff and Yera speak the truth.
Its taken me to long to see through him and what he's been trying to do by puting me down all the time, but now i've finally decided i've had enough.
*hugs*
:eek: :crazyeyes
Babe, dump the loser.
BTW You aren't going out with MattLiverpool by any chance?
you could do better...WAY better.