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Girls advice needed - Hols
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I'm going to Malia with 5 of my m8s in July and it's tha first time abroad without the parents for everyone. I wanna go topless as don't want strap marks and don't really have a problem getting the boobs out but theres some boys from our year at school going too (we're all 17, half way thru sixth form).
Would u go topless in that situation with boys u know from home possibly hangin about with u? Theres 4 boys goin, 2 (at the moment) going out with 2 of the girls that I'm goin with.
Need advice. Pls no boys, no what u'll say lol
xx
Would u go topless in that situation with boys u know from home possibly hangin about with u? Theres 4 boys goin, 2 (at the moment) going out with 2 of the girls that I'm goin with.
Need advice. Pls no boys, no what u'll say lol
xx
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i dont think id do it though, i suppose if i knew them reeeeeally well...
Perhaps not, camera phones are everywhere, would You want to take that chance??
stick too common topless/nudist beaches, you'll be fine
TBH I would be honest with the boys and treat them like adults. Tell them that you want to go topless but that you don't want pictures flying around school or any childish laughing when you get back. Assuming that you think you can trust them that is.
Ultimately though, you have to ask yourself how much the tan means to you. If it means enough then who cares what the boys think. If they are anything like me at that age, you soon get used to seeing them on the beach and so another pair really won't make any difference...
It really depends. If you are 17 and there are a few boys who have the hots for you, it might have a tad uncomfortable consequences. You at least need to have the knowledge that they probably vigorously jack off to their mental imagine of you topless. If they all have girlfriends, or you just know them really good since forever, I don't see much of a problem.
Of course in the end it's just your choice, if you don't have a problem with your mates lusting after you (which is with 17 probably still the case [with 21 too... who am i kidding]), I think it is ok in my book.
I had girl friends be topless with me in the lido, but they we knew each other for quite some time and they were comfortable with it.
Thing is tho, that other girls might think of you skanky, so showing off some skin is always a bit of a 'taboo'. I go to the spa (sauna) with a few friends and it's always a bit virgin soil if new ones accompany.
Depends on your mates, male and female, but if they are cool, then I don't see a problem..... (but I stem from a half-nudist nation, mind!) ;D
Obviously going topless will be easier and less of a big deal in a place where lots of other people are doing it.
If you were to go topless and someone snapped a quick pic, would that bother you? If the answer to that is "yes, I'd spend the rest of my holiday desperately trying to delete the photo / kill them with an axe / plot my revenge", then don't bother.
If I was 17 and going away with a group of friends and my bf, and my mates kept getting their boobs out I wouldn't like it, but I know some people do just do that on holiday. I would just think my bf would be checking out their boobs all the time!
I went away with some friends a few years ago and one of them has had a boob job and has very perky boobs, she was constantly walking round in a thong and guys kept taking pics of her on their camera phones.
Anyway it's up to you! Just use sun cream whatever you do, have fun.
I would, however, say that you might want to talk to your female friends about it - they might not be comfortable about you getting them out in front of their boyfriends. Also, if all the girls do it, i think it'll be less of a 'big deal' if you do
And yeah, burnt nipples = not fun
At 17 me and all my mates (male and female) had already seen most of the others naked (new tattoos, piercings, parties, sleeping over... and the occasional run-around-the-estate-naked moment).
The real question is do you trust them not to react like twats, and if you don't, do you want to put yourself in that position?