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What do you talk about? Shallow?
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I had it suggested to me recently that I am shallow because I don't tend to talk about politics or 'important stuff' with my friends.
I went out with 2 friends last night and all we talked about was clothes, food, men, shopping and TV. When I was at college I had different friends and we had really deep conversations about all sorts of stuff, I felt inspired and full of ideas.
What do you talk about with your friends? I don't want to be a shallow person but don't think the friends I see the most of are really interested in suddenly beginning to have deep conversations!
If I meet my friend (probably the one I see the most of) in the pub, for instance, after catching up on what we've been up to, we often seem to run out of things to talk about. Just feel like my brain is not being stretched.
I went out with 2 friends last night and all we talked about was clothes, food, men, shopping and TV. When I was at college I had different friends and we had really deep conversations about all sorts of stuff, I felt inspired and full of ideas.
What do you talk about with your friends? I don't want to be a shallow person but don't think the friends I see the most of are really interested in suddenly beginning to have deep conversations!
If I meet my friend (probably the one I see the most of) in the pub, for instance, after catching up on what we've been up to, we often seem to run out of things to talk about. Just feel like my brain is not being stretched.
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This is mainly because me and my friends don't know a lot about heavy things. We just wouldn't be able to hold a conversation on say politics cos we know nothing about it and it doesn't interest us.
I will rarely talk politics with anyone.
Of course I have random mates and accquaintances with whom I'd only be able to talk about very specific things we have in common or having that usual 'catch up' chatter, but to be honest I would only be seeing them now and again... so it'd be very rare that we'd run out of chit-chat and banter. If the people I considered my dearest friends and I could only talk about that stuff then I'd be a bit concerned, but interests diverge and people change I guess!
Basically my best and longest-held friendships are with people on the same wavelength as me, people who have ample time for daftness and banter, getting wrecked and chatting random slimy cod shit but on balance don't think that discussing political and social issues down t'pub is snobbish or bourgeoisie as some people seem to (inverse snobbery if ever I heard it!) If I didn't get the chance to exercise my brain with my mates then I think I'd become unglued, they are as smart and interesting as it gets :thumb:
Oh, I don't think it's shallow to talk about shopping, men, sex lives and all that. There's a place for amusing chat in every friendship and I'm sure a lot of people are happy just to natter about those things... it's just down to what you're interested in and what's on your mind at the time I suppose. Oh, and possibly how many bottles of wine you've had
And just the latest stuff that's going on, I think me and a lot of my mates are at the age where things are coming together (career wise, relationship wise etc) and things are changing quite quickly so it's good to catch up.
There's loads of people I know that I don't see much of now because I've moved about quite a bit these last few years, so it is mainly catching up I do when I do get the time to see them and have a chat with them. I've one or two mates that I'd speak to about feelings things and emotional stuff, but I think as long as you aren't on about yourself all the time or staring at boobs or men's packets then it's hardly shallow.
I don't talk about "politics" with my friends either, especially if we are out at night. Maybe from time to time, when something interesting or shocking was on the news. And not with all of my friends either. There is one I have deep conversation frequently, but I just can't be bothered with that all the time, especially if we are going out, like I said. So then it might be "superficial" things like technics, chicas, drinking, or whatever.
I think the "inspiring" kind of conversation times are in the minority too, but who cares, they are here and they are welcome (and not just a front, "uuh, look we talk about politics!").
Same here...when I'm out with the guys we talk about music, hockey, girls, and once in a blue moon something deep. When I'm around girls we talk about friends and life in general, but I keep away from most of the things I talk about around my guy friends.