How to handle meeting up with someone

Former Member · March 2007

Hey,

When I first started college I saw this girl which I found quite attractive but as i'm shy we never talked. Anyway after the first week or so I never saw her again and so I thought that was that. Several months later I saw her profile on myspace or something like that and added her and we got chatting and seemed to get on. Anyways I suggested ages ago we meet up, but it never seemed to happen but eventually we've decided a time to meet up during college.

I'm now a bit nervous about how to handle it, we're both shy and I want to make a good impression but I don't want to fall into the "friend only" trap. How do I try to show that I quite like her without scaring her off or going OTT, but at the same time not just becoming a friend only?

Any advice?

Cheers

Former Member · March 2007

Try and be very flirty - eye contact, smiling, slip in a few double entendres (sp?) etc, she should get the message..

Former Member · March 2007

Yes, be flirty, but don't act out of your ordinary self either. What attracts most is a guy who is comfortable with himself and confident (though not full of himself

). If you're shy it can sound difficult to achieve, but bear in mind that at the end of the day it's not you who will be placing yourself into a 'category' (ie just friends/guy I fancy), rather it's she who'll decide that. I don't really know if you have much control on it tbh... one is attracted to the other person or not. Just smile a lot, make eye contact and be attentive to her... and hope for the best. Good luck!

How to handle meeting up with someone

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