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ask for bum sex
Sorry if this has been said before. Do you say " can i bum you?" before, during or after?
Also, if a girl says she didnt like it, can you say " well he must of done it wrong!" lol
Just a query, comments appreciated
Sorry if this has been said before. Do you say " can i bum you?" before, during or after?
Also, if a girl says she didnt like it, can you say " well he must of done it wrong!" lol
Just a query, comments appreciated
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Women love being surprised after all.
Before, during or after what exactly?!
Sex of course!:D
:sour: Have you actually got anything useful to add?
The main thing to remember is that some women just don't like anal play, or sex, regardless of who's giving it to them. But then of course many do. Overall it's probably best to broach the subject with sensitivity and maturity. I don't think there's any harm in suggesting that anal sex with you might be different to what she's experienced before, but at the end of the day, if she tries it and still doesn't like it there's not much you can do.
Have a read of this article on anal play. There was also some really helpful advice in our recent sex chat with Emily Dubberley.
Hope this helps
You call that being hard? :razz:
I'm glad you appreciate the banter (genuinely!), but not everyone necessarily will. What I would say is that it's usually best followed with some serious advice, particularly in this forum.
I do apologise for my lack of experience taking and giving it up the jacksy :rolleyes:
Calvin or Lacy's posts were hardly helpful, why single me out?
Theres never a time when it would be appropriate for everyone. If its something youd really like then theres probably ways you could "put the feelers out" (pardon the pun) to see how she/he would be about it without actually asking outright.
That's exactly it though. It's easy to look at the self-help stuff on here, but making people laugh...well, that's a gift :razz:
Then you should be very proud of yourself
Move over Bernard Manning, there is a new guy in town
:thumb:
Are you serious?
Come off it, I barely said anything. And to be fair, the question could have been about any aspect of sex - you don't need the experience to give a serious response to that question. I'm not saying you can't be funny (as was said banter can be appreciated), but geez just not nearly as much as real advice. Give me strength. Please PM me if you have issues with this - I don't want to distract the thread any further!
I suppose that in the same way "Suck my cock!" might be regarded as impolite, it would only be polite to say " May I f*ck you up the arse, PLEASE?".
If you are at the stage of your relationship where you are having sex, you ought to be well into good communication - so just ask her opinion.
And you might even find out there's stuff she's been wanting to do to you, but didn't know how to ask....
Wouldnt it totally depend on how it was asked though.
I cant imagine just being asked. Id feel that was a bit weird.
In church!
Well...yes.....if a bloke stopped, looked at you, and asked you very seriously..."excuse me, but would you mind very much if I did you up the arse?", then I'd be much more likely to say no than if he just mentioned "God - I'd love to do you up the arse!!"
It's not like a serious discussion is needed...just introduce the idea in a positive, "wouldn't it be fun if we tried this?" way.....
1. I wouldn't refer to it as "bum you"
2. Surely before, because the other too imply that you don't hve permission
3. I would want to broach the subject generally rather than put her in a position where she has to make a decision there and then. You'll get an idea of her views by talking about anal sex generally.
This is how to ask for it.
Errr.... no relation.
This so belongs in waste time - not the sex forum.