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to do itm or not to do it....
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right i got a dilema i got this girl offering sex (my first time) not hers, my morals are comeing into conflict, live life only once and should only do it with a gf
i know its old fassiond and mabe i need to get with it
ime ready to do it tho just uncertain cause shes had experiance and ive not so feel like a bit a novice, ime gonna see this girl reguarly for atleast half a year. just wanted you opinions to help me get ma head straight :banghead:
cheers
i know its old fassiond and mabe i need to get with it
ime ready to do it tho just uncertain cause shes had experiance and ive not so feel like a bit a novice, ime gonna see this girl reguarly for atleast half a year. just wanted you opinions to help me get ma head straight :banghead:
cheers
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If you just want to dip your wick, on the other hand, then you should. My firest sexual experience was with a girl who meant nothing, and I don't regret it.
If you really want to do it then you should, as I say, I did and don't regret it (although ironically I lost my virginity to the girl I ended up marrying!).
It depends on how much your virginity means to you. For me it was something I wanted rid of.
Why is it rash? If he wants to do it then he will do it. If he bottles it, then he wont.
Its all about confidence and doing what you feel you can do
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It's normally more of a thing for girls to lose their virginity than boys. Guys normally just want to get it over and done with.
That said, if it doesn't feel right for you then don't do it. Don't be forced into doing something you don't feel comfortable doing.
Now that I'm single again and have been for 6 months I'd like to be offered it now though! Why did they only offer it to me when i didnt want it!
Haha You can't hide Your disapointment behind small letters.
To the op - i say you dont mate, you've said yourself that fucking this girl conflicts with your morals soquite simply, dont bend them.
The right time and the right girl will come along eventually and (if you decide to) no doubt you will be happy you waited.
I was in the couldnt wait to lose it crowd as well and the girl was nothing special. I dont regret it though, was just happy to have broken the seal really.
Maybe men never regret sexy stuff!? (well, that's not true exactly, I regret plenty)
Personally a girl that is offering it to you on a plate must not have much self respect and get around a bit. Call me stereotypical but that's my opinion so just ask yourself if you want to lose it to a girl who just wants sex or to a girl who wants to have sex with you because she loves and cares for you.
If your having to question yourself over this issue then personally i don't think you should do it.
:yes: Agreed.
If you want some fun and know you wont regret it - then go for it because fun is good, but if you think you may regret it and you strongly feel that you want to loose it to someone your in a relationship with then Id say dont do it.
What the fuck? Why must she not have any self-respect? Heaven forbid that a woman should like sex for the sake of it :rolleyes:
A lot of men don't have the same attitude to virginity as women do. As it turns out I lost it to the woman I married, but we weren't in love or in a relationship when we did it. I almost lost it a few nights before to someone I didn't know at all. Big deal, I don't regret it at all.
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what???
I really don't get how a girl saying she wants to have sex means she has no self respect!
Kermit, I'd daresay you might be a bit sensitive, I think it's the same if its a girl or a guy, just in this case the OP is interested in women, so the advice was tailored to him.
No, she said that this girl is offering herself on a plate so clearly has no self respect. I just don't understand how admitting you like/want sex has anything to do with self respect or indeed lack of it, and that goes for men or women.
Thats what i was so shocked at.
yeah im with you in that if a girl/boy just wants sex to have some fun, then they can just get some if they want it. I dont think it has anything to do with self respect unless your a prostitute.
Believe me, that's my experience