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Ex moving on...finding it hard
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Basically as the title says.
We were together for 3 years and broke up about 3 weeks ago.
She seems to be feeling fine and moving on with her life, meeting other people etc but its killing me and i just dont know how to deal with it..help?
We were together for 3 years and broke up about 3 weeks ago.
She seems to be feeling fine and moving on with her life, meeting other people etc but its killing me and i just dont know how to deal with it..help?
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Just try and spend time with your mates and have as little or no contact with her.
ETA: And yes, i think she is trying to keep busy because shes been out practically every night since the split, which is quite upsetting really - just feels like she doesnt need me anymore
I find socialising with girly mates after a breakup helps. Inflates my battered ego a little.
But I have been dumped before and yeah as other people have said, the only way forward is to completely sever contact. Get rid of any valentines day cards, photos, presents e.t.c I know you don't want to, but looking at them only makes things harder. That empty feeling every night is the hardest part, but seriously it's always 100 times worse when you're alone and not doing much. Clubbing and getting wasted with other good looking girls is the way I move on, but then everyone's different, so whatever works for you man.
Chin up mate.
Trust me, she wont have moved on yet, its just that she wants to forget about things so going out and doing stuff with mates is the best thing to do.
Try being like that yourself and not worrying too much about what she is doing :thumb:
I know its harder said than done but its for the best.
I hope things get better for you soon
Words cannot describe how much happier I am now though. It took a while for me but time is a healer. You will move on, you will get over this, I promise you
Just look forward to your future. You are at uni, you have lots going for you
Chin up, you know where I am on MSN if you wanna chat
I agree with Lipsy here! She is probably still depressed too but is trying not to show it. You will feel better eventually and feel happier and then have a huge rant about her, then feel much much better and get back on track! Go you!
Be a lad again. Go out with all your male friends as much as possible. Get seriously trashed and pull everything with a pulse.
Fuck all use for giving you the warm fuzzy feeling of being a couple, but the best way of showing yourself you don't need a bird.