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continuation from my last thread
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okay, so if you read my last thread you'd know that i'm currently having a difficult time with my ex. not really with her, but more with myself. anyway. i'm currently trying to figure out what to do in the next year. i'm considering moving 500 miles to her area and trying to make things work again. thing is, i was never around much teasing, as her family did/does to me. they mean it as a form of acceptance. i dearly want to make things work with her and get along well with her family. i just haven't learned to really 'get' the teasing thing. i feel we'd be pretty well together if it weren't for that one thing. i tend to be a naturally serious person and take things to the heart, even though i know it's just a joke. does anybody have any advice or could possibly point me in the direction of some websites or something that would help me learn to understand/deal with this more. i'm going to be getting a job here and working for 52 weeks straight before i consider moving so i will have lots of time to deal with this if need be. okay, thanks in advance for any advice.
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But we never say things we mean - it's all just a laugh. Give as good as you get. If you can laugh at yourself then no one can laugh louder. Look at the joke itself as a joke, not as a dig against you.
It certainly shouldn't get in the way of a relationship with someone. Perhaps you could mention it to the girl in question that you're not keen on it, and when you're with her family she may be able to cut it out a little bit. But I wouldn't make too much of a big thing out of it, just take it on the chin.
Been there, done it mate. Know how you feel. If they lack the effort, its worth considering what she wants from it all and also what really are you getting out of it? In the past, I've hada few just like that (with the effort lark i mean) ultimately, it doesn't work out. It sounds to me like your putting alot of effort in, if shes not putting in her fare share, well... I'd say you need to be careful dude. Also if your constantly paranoid about the way her family and friends interact with you, is that really the sort of thing you want to put yourself through within a relationship? It's already hard enough keeping both parties happy. The thing is, people like this, there not going to change for you unless 'they' themselves feel uncomfortable. Shes obviously not :sour: If its they're way of socializing generally you couldnt blame them.
anyway good luck, hope it all works out for ya!