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Have a friend of several years who I've recently made it clearish to that I liked him & wouldn't mind something more....he knocked me back saying he didn't want to ruin the friendship, blah blah....fine...think I handled it pretty well...since then, we've been in touch a little more often (mostly by email...just chatting about anything and everything).....just texted him to finish up a convo we were having by email a couple of days ago....and finished off wishing him a happy Valentine's day (nothing like..."Happy Valentine's Day you big stud.....I 
you!!!", just a small, understated, Happy Valentine's Day)......but still, think now I've gon e & made it bloomin' clear that I still have feelings for him, and I'd been doing so well to keep it all normal and not mention stuff like that.....damn!!!! Annoyed with myself....:banghead:
Heeellllppp!!! If that was you getting that text, do you think it would seem so bad?? Or am I just blowing it out of proportion??
you!!!", just a small, understated, Happy Valentine's Day)......but still, think now I've gon e & made it bloomin' clear that I still have feelings for him, and I'd been doing so well to keep it all normal and not mention stuff like that.....damn!!!! Annoyed with myself....:banghead:Heeellllppp!!! If that was you getting that text, do you think it would seem so bad?? Or am I just blowing it out of proportion??
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Ooo....didn't see your new post...thanks!!
I don't think you did anything that would wierd him out. Even if he now thinks you still have feelings for him, there's nothing wrong with that. He probably knew you still had feelings for him anyway, guys know that kind of stuff doesn't go away. I don't think anything bad is going to happen from this.
Be careful if he wants to start a relationship with you, though. I was in his position a while ago (3 1/2 years, I guess) and I finally decided to start a relationship with a girl I had been good friends with for a couple of years. The whole thing got blown out of proportion and she wound up hurting me bad. We were still friends after a while but things kind of faded over a year or so and we never talk anymore. Whatever happens, keep in mind that he's your friend as well as anything else that may or may not develop, and friendship is way more important in this situation.
My best mate and I actually slept together a couple of years ago.. it doesn't get mentioned now, but every time he moans about being single and women rejecting him i get a pang of guilt.
this guy hasn't even looked at another woman since he met me, he'd do anything for me and marry me in a second. I have to hide things about guys I see as I don't want to hurt him. He must have spent £50 on a bunch of flowers for me yest and wrote me the sweetest poem ever. He's a good looking guy, excellent job, very intelligent, funny but I just don't fancy him - he'll make someone a brilliant husband one day.
I'm in the middle of trying to fix him up with my mates that fancies him. They are both great people and would make an excellent couple so fingers crossed!
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