Beating self harm

Former Member · January 2001

I could really use some ideas from anyone who has beaten self harm or is in the steps to recovery from it as to how I can try to stop myself.

My cutting is getting worse again, although I have an emergency kit which contains blades, it also contains tcp, wound dressings and bandages ( I believe in keepin clean). the more I've done recently the more it's spirraled, Last night I cut down at my wrists again, only for harms sake not for anything more sinister, but I got carried away and hit fairly deeply, so much so when I took the dressing of this evening to clean a couple opened up again. without any help from the hospital I need to try and get things back into perspective, son any help or advice would greatly be apreciated.
Cheers
Luka

The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see

Former Member · January 2001

Hi LUKA, we have an article on TheSite that might help a bit. It's got a couple of links at the bottom, one of which may be of some use:
http://www.thesite.org/health/headstate/self_harm.html

It's not much, but it's somewhere to start.

Good luck and best wishes
Karla

Former Member · January 2001

(((luka)))) sorry to hear its getting bad again. I no just how u feel, Im sure u r aware, and I wish I could be of some help about stopping but I dont no that Im the best person to give advice on this one. I can tell u a bit of wat people advised me to do when I get the urge to cut, I dunno if itll be any use as I still found it hard.
One thing they say when U feel like your gonna cut is to do something else, like tearing paper or punching a cusion (if u r cutting outta anger then that does help).
Also U could try getting rid of the thing u would use to cut, like blade or glass etc. If u aint got things around u then its not so tempting is it.
If theres someone u can phone then do that, When my friend was trying to stop I told her to phone me everytime she needed to cut and Id talk to her. It took her a while to find the strength to reach out and pick up the phone but when she realised that she needed help to stop she started to phone me whenever she thought she would cut. I would just talk to her about stuff, not even always about cutting, just anything and she found it a real help. It wasnt just me, it was her own will power and determination, but she no longer cuts and hasnt for about a year now.
I hope this is of some help, Im not sure if it will be or not. Im sure u already no that u can talk to me wheneer u feel crappy...Im coming to see if u r on messenger in a minute. Hope things start to work out for ya Luka <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

Former Member · January 2001

Thanks Karla & Lolly your concearn, wishes and advice is much apreciated. where would thesite be without you and everyone esle.

Thanks once again.
Luka

The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see

Former Member · January 2001

Luk, I have never experienced this, so I have no advice for you <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> I am here though, just know that {{{{{{{{{Luk}}}}}}}}}

j9

Former Member · January 2001

Originally posted by LUKA:
Thanks Karla & Lolly your concearn, wishes and advice is much apreciated. where would thesite be without you and everyone esle.

Thanks once again.
Luka

I find it real hard to take a compliment...here goes...urrr thanx luka <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">! Nos seriously that was a very nice thing to say, and I feel the same way with u too <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">

Life is a waste of time and time is a waste of life. So get wasted all the time, and have the time of you're life!

Former Member · January 2001

Originally posted by LUKA:
I could really use some ideas from anyone who has beaten self harm or is in the steps to recovery from it as to how I can try to stop myself.

Oh LUKA I'm sorry. {{{{{{{{LUKA}}}}}}}}

I think there's no substitute for the love and understanding of those around you, if you have it. I have a feeling also that confronting the source of your problems might help, but I know that's not so simple.

In the end, everyone has to find a unique solution to their problems. Keep trying and we'll keep supporting you.

Former Member · January 2001

<IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> god i wish i could offer some advice on this as it is something my ex used to do, used to *really* upset me.
Her mother/sister/step mother/brother all died within a short space of time when she was young, she also suffered sexual abuse when she was young for a short time....fucking evil bastards, oh what i would do to people like that.

She eventually stopped but only after she'd been to the doctors and been to see a psychiatrist. Dont get me wrong (hence edit), she wasnt mentally unstable and she wasnt committed to a mental hospital or anything, she just had fortnightly chats to a specialist and it seemed to help an awful lot.

Maybe a visit to your doctors might be a good idea or a good friend/teacher/close relative.

Please seek help.

[This message has been edited by Sid (edited 14-01-2001).]

Former Member · January 2001

...just to add

you've alreadly taken an important step by sharing your problems on this site <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">.

Former Member · January 2001

Originally posted by Sid:

Maybe a visit to your doctors might be a good idea or a good friend/teacher/close relative.

Please seek help.

Luka is well experienced in seeking help, it just seems that the help that he needs is very elusive right now <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">

j9

Former Member · January 2001

Originally posted by j9:
Luka is well experienced in seeking help, it just seems that the help that he needs is very elusive right now <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">

j9

{{{{{{{{J9}}}}}}}}}} <tear> Thanks sweetie.

Thanks for your concearn sid, unfortunately things with my shink don't go to well. He's only just remembered that last visit last month he was supposed to refer me to the pyschologist. Although he knows that psychology doesn't work (I had countless of psychology sessions). But he has atleast realised he made a stupid mistake by not giving me a cpn (comunity pychiatric nurse) when I was discharged from hospital, suddenly seems that the support I wasn't given upon discharge is appearing. Maybe I'll have enough strength to change to the GP's near where I live as oposed to the family gp I've had since I was born.

One more bonus is that it's been a week without harming, partially because I've been to busy to have time to harm. <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

On a more worrying note, I took the Goldberg test again as I said I would, in the hope that I would be a little bit lower scoring than the 74 last time, infact I've crept up 8 points to 82 <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">

thanks for your support and wishes kind friends, peace to one and all.

LUKA

The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see

Former Member · January 2001

Nice to see you around Luka...miss you when you're gone, you know. Seems you've been busy...good to hear. What with?? C u online sometime m8.

I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.

Former Member · January 2001

Originally posted by LUKA:
One more bonus is that it's been a week without harming, partially because I've been to busy to have time to harm. <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

that's really good to hear <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

Originally posted by LUKA:
On a more worrying note, I took the Goldberg test again as I said I would, in the hope that I would be a little bit lower scoring than the 74 last time, infact I've crept up 8 points to 82 <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"> <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">

That's not so good, but having said that, you have to remember that the test is just a guide & is general. You aren't general, you are a special, individual person, so don't despair. <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

j9

I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

MTS ^5

Former Member · January 2001

You certainly sound happier than you did not that long ago LUKA, don't let that test get you down lol. Good luck as always <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

Former Member · January 2001

Luka, sounds like your GP isnt very sympathetic. Change GPs if i were you.

Great to hear that you've gone a week without harming yourself <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> as u seem like a decent person, keep up the good work <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">!!!

Former Member · March 2001

whats the goldburg test?
oh and stay strong u guys

Former Member · March 2001

Originally posted by charley:
whats the goldburg test?
oh and stay strong u guys

A Goldberg test, is a test that can be taken online, that will give an indicator on the level of depression and suggest where to go on from there. It shouldn't be used as a diagnosis, more of an indicator.

Here's a link to where a Goldberg test can be taken: http://community.netdoktor.com/ccs/uk/depression/facts/testyourself/index.jsp

take care
Luk

I think it's because I'm clumsy
I try not to talk to loud
I think it's because I'm crazy
I try not to act to proud

Former Member · March 2001

thanx. im just gonna take it now. goin docs 4 the first time next week, y'all wish me luck!! were gonna hold a ritual candle burning and throw out all my blades as well. cu soon, charl xxx <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

Former Member · March 2001

i got sixty one on that test. i dont think thats a good sign. o well i need sleep, stay safe, charl xxx

Former Member · March 2001

Originally posted by charley:
thanx. im just gonna take it now. goin docs 4 the first time next week,

Good luck charley you are making a positive step, it's not an easy step going for help with depression but the treatment gets easier I promise. There is an organisation called depression alliance where you might find some help and advice with follow sufferes. If there is anything we can do to help, just ask.

Peace
LUK

I think it's because I'm clumsy
I try not to talk to loud
I think it's because I'm crazy
I try not to act to proud

Girl-From-Mars · March 2001

good luck charley <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

i hope things go well for you at the docs, i dont have any experience of self harm or depression really personally, but ive seen and heard about peoples experiences on here. im sure it wont be easy, especially not at first, but youve made an important step in going to the docs and admitting you have a problem.

i hope you'll become a part of these boards and talk to us about your problems, and we all can hopefully help you. and maybe some of the things you say can help someone else sometime too <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees

Former Member · March 2001

hey well thanx 4 ure support. im still debatin on whether 2 go or 2 just cancel the appointment, but i know i gotta do it eventually. im still workin up 2 tellin my parents, they still hav no idea. *sigh* its really pissin me off coz i really wanna tell them, i just dont hav the guts and im scared of how theyll react to it. hmmm well i gotta go pick out a suit for commem (ooooh the fun!!), so ill speak 2 u all agian soon. charl xxx

Former Member · March 2001

i told her. i was shakin and cryin and everythin, but i think she took it pretty well, better than i had imagined anyway. she offered to come with me, but ppl ive spoke 2 so far reckon that its best to go on ure own coz they se dthey felt uncomfortable sayin stuff in front of their parents. so im gonnna go now, 4 definate, <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">. im just kinda nervous about it, so can anyone tell me what to expect. its just my gp, but some of my mates reckon he's a good gp. thanx, charl xxx

Beating self harm

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