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Teen angst

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
My mum took me to the doctors about 6 months ago because I was having trouble sleeping, losing my appetite, losing interest in a lot of stuff, getting tension and just generally feeling down.

However he said there was nothing wrong and gave me some relaxation tapes to help deal with any stress I may be under from school. They didn't do anything and ever since I have hidden everything from my mum because she tends to worry about nothing and this was obviously just a teenage phase I was going through.

Since then however, I've been feeling worse. My appetite's shrunk even more and over the half term I didn't do anything - just stayed in and did homework. After a few days I stopped doing that too and just lay in bed or played the piano. I didn't feel like doing anything and couldn't concentrate enough to read.

Recently I started to make shallow cuts on my arm because (and this is gonna sound really weird) it helped me feel better, but I stopped because I was scared my parents would see.

I've been feeling sad and low a lot, but I'm still happy sometimes, so I don't know what's wrong. I've been avoiding my friends and not wanting to go out and see them, but I don't know why - I just don't want to. I don't feel like I can really complain about this because I have no reason to be sad at all, so this post is really just me getting it out of my system.

I guess it's just normal teenage mood swings but my friends always have a go at me for being moody so I can't talk to them about anything and just try to seem happy, you know - smile and release happy hormones or whatever, but so far it hasn't worked. So I was just wondering what any of you do when you have similar kinda teenage problems or whatever.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry - just realised how long that was - not intentional i promise. Sorry!
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    it doesnt just sound like "teenage angst" to me chickadee, it sounds like you have depression. like j9 said, that website is pretty good and has loads of resources on it and what to do and how depression effects you and all stuff like that.

    maybe you should go and see another doctor, maybe you can find a more sympathetic one within your practice? just tell them what youve written down here, or print it out if you dont feel able to (i know id end up not being able to talk and talking too fast and missing stuff out and mumbling and stumbling over words and god knows what, im terrible at doctors). especially if you're harming yourself or have been, i think you need to talk to someone about it who will take you seriously.

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    GFM is right, it does sound like u are depressed. Try a different doctor or maybe try talking to your mum again?
    You said your friends think u are being moody but have u tried to talk to any of them, sometimes it helps just to talk things over. I think you should definatly take a look at a couple of websites and see if they are any help.
    Good luck <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; I hope u feel better soon, but try and find another way to feel better that doesn't involve cutting, its only a temporary solution and can create more problems (like feeling guilty and scarring). I know its hard when you feel that down but try not to. Is there anything that is making you feel down? school? friends? or life in general?! well good luck <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks guys! No sunflower, there's nothing getting in particular getting me down - I have no reason at all to be so miserable which makes it even worse.

    I went to the site and it does seem like I have got depression. I had a lot of the symptoms.

    I'm going to the docs again on Mon (different doc, different reason) so maybe I'll bring it up then. Scary though - I don't wanna feel like I'm making a mountain out of a molehill.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i was a 76 on that <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it defnitely dont sound like mood swings and u shud definitely bring it up with ur doc who can help u by puttin u on medication if he/she thiks u need it, and/or a councellor to help get to the root of why u feel the way you do, why you do the things u do and help u get better.

    If u av bin self harmin then its more than just teen angst. I hope things work out ok 4u, and i know exactly wot u mean bout puttin on a happy face around ur friends coz i do the same. ppl dont seem to like unhappy ppl, do they?

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks j9 - I did that test and.....well, let's just say it was a wee bit higher than I'd been expecting (56) <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">. I was kinda hoping it would prove you all wrong! Not as high as you though Ickle ((((((((((ickle)))))))))) Hope you get sorted soon.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by IcKleMoNSteR:
    i was a 76 on that <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    yikes <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    ((((((((((((((ickle)))))))))))))))

    we'll get through this, i promise.



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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not in a position to diagnose you, but these symtoms are all classic symptoms of depression, and you need to see a psychiatrist right away. I wouldn't bother with a general practice doctor, as they don't have the specialized training to deal with this. Ask for, no DEMAND a referal so you can gte the help you need.

    Your doctor sees teen angst, but the fact is that depression tends to appear in the teen years, so is often ignored or misdiagnosed.

    There are some wonderful treatments available, so there is no need for you to suffer like this. Don't feel shy about bringing it up...depression is a serious disease and can be fatal if untreated. If it turns out not to be depression, don't be embarrassed...you have every right to demand that all causes are investigated. If you had a lump in your breast that turned out to be nothing, would you feel guilty asking your doctor to see if it was cancer?

    Take care of yourself as best you can. I suffer from this awful disease, and others here do too. You won't be judged here and you will find both advice and support anytime.

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