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Hi all, i really need some urgent advice, ive been chatting to a wonderful man off the internet for over two years, we often speak on the phone several times a day and text etc...I really like this guy and he's asked if we can meet next week, which under normal circumstances i'd be really happy about, but instead im trying too get out of without hurting him...in the beginning i told him lots of lies, mainly because i didn't think things would go this far and i never imagined it would get too the meeting stage, i guess i thought we'd just loste touch eventually.........Firstly i sent him a photo of someone else, mainly because im not the most attractive person, although in all fairness i have never seen a photo of him, secondly he thinks i have only one child, yet i have several, he also thinks im divorced, but im still stuck in an unhappy marriage. Im not proud of what ive done, i dont want too lose this guy, but if i tell him the truth i'll lose him and if i met him, he'd get a nasty shock and i'd lose him...please please can anyone help, i know ive been a total idiot, just need some advice on what too do for the best.....thanks
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If you feel that you want to meet him, then you have no choice but to tell him the truth, clear it up with him. He might not care or it could be the opposite, but you will not know until you tell him.
and if he does, kick his ass to the cyber-curb.
I cannot personally put myself in your shoes, but you do need to sort out your broken marriage first. In my opinion, this is more important, that some bloke you have never met.
Was your marriage unhappy before you started speaking to the internet man? Because what can happen, is you can imagine a much better life with someone who is perfect...however, reality is much more bitter than that. The internet man (sorry, not a very nice term, but at least you know who i am talking about ) could be hideous, with the worst habits, and you could risk losing your family for this person.
In other words that was a long winded way of saying, leave internet man, and concentrate on your family, be it with your husband or alone. When third parties get involved, someone always gets hurt, and it will probably be you.
And I speak as someone who was stuck in an unhappy marriage with children. You need to sort that out one way or the other without anything else skewing your perception. And tell the internet bloke the truth, you don't really have much choice.