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going on date and petrified
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I would avoid wearing something overtly sexy, though heels are always good if he's a tall'un and you feel you can cope/won't have to walk far. Otherwise what about boots, they're a bit more manageable even with a heel! This said, make sure you wear something that makes you feel sexy while being comfortable. That's the important distinction. Low maintenence hair is the way forward - whether up or down. You definitely don't want to be worrying about your elaborate up-do while you are trying to flirt!
As for paying, I hate being paid for so I would at least attempt to pay for my own ticket etc, if not his too. If he offers to pay and insists then let smile, say thank you and let him get it... then just say that it's your treat next time around.
Good luck, and most importantly have fun... I am sure you will blow his mind!
just go out and have fun hun
and heels can never fail to make a girl feel sexy (if not a little sore!) so maybe they might be a good idea. but then it depends how much walking you have to do and what the rest of your outfit is like.
have fun!
going for overtly sexy could give off the wrong impression.
In Strubbles point of view.
Lose the heels. It does not matter if he's tell. The ~2 inches you gain won't make too much difference. About the hair thing... Hmmm. As a boy I notice of course when you hair is well-groomed, but I do not assess your hair of how you wear it. It's really up to you.
Don't expect him to pay. Tbh. When I go out with a girl I will pay for her if it seems appropriate, but I WON'T as soon as I notice you want me to pay, because you think it's going to be a cheap night for you, because my wallet will do the work. Do you go out with me? or with my money.
Well, if you kissed already and you like each other I don't think there won't be many negative chicanery. At the end of the date turn to him, look him into his eyes and he will know what to do :thumb:
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I know you are an old fashioned kind of girl PussyKatty, but I agree with briggi there. If a girl invites me for something, or at least makes the attempt to do it, I feel flattered and it's a turn on. If I just notice a sign she appriciates me enough to pay for me, I would not let that go without recompensation!
Really? I thought when dating the guy would pay for both, but then once your in a relationship etc sooner or later you would go halves.
well, obviously there isn't any written rule to that.
There will be always disagreements in times where chivalry meets emancipation.
I'm rather with koe on that one tho. I rather have the bill split, or like he said, the good ol' "I get the tickets, you the popcorn." That's a tad more personal...
As a man you shouldn't settle for the cheaper thing then, because it's rude to advise someone to pay ~12€ for tickets and you get a pot of popcorn for 4€.
If he insists on it and wants to do it for the right reasons, but imo, I don't think it should ever, ever be assumed or expected.
But as strubbles says - there's no written rule.
here's me thinking that women wanted to be treat as equals...
they only want that when it benefits them...typical. :rolleyes:
im in a relationship right now, and i dont mind paying for stuff here and there, because i know i'll get stuff paid for in return..its swings and roundabouts..
certainly when ive dated i wont insist on paying for everything, sometimes it wouldnt bother me, but it certainly shouldnt be expected.
However if I went to the cinema I would probably let them buy the tickets and then whilst they were in the que go buy pop corn and drinks etc - thus avoiding the arguments over paying but both kind of roughly paying the same.
I could just be really old fashioned though - and also I have always been out with people who have earnt much more than I have or with the poorere people have never actually "dated" - just hung out at each others houses.
I've not bothered going on a second date before now because she expected me to pay for everything on the first date. Nothing gets my back up more. It's the 21st century, not 1872. At the end of the day, you're fairly likely to be dating someone who's a similar age to you and earns a similar amount of money. Therefore you should both pay a similar amount...
I fucking HATE this being made into a huge issue, it's only money, I'd happily pay every time if necessary - anything for a quiet life. As for it being the 21st century, indeed! But I have found it is men who usually dwell on and display the backward, old-fashioned attitude these days, assuming that all women expect to be paid for and making little snipes all the time to that effect. God damn it, it annoys me.
eta: As for the OP, I don't think she was displaying this "I expect him to pay" attitude at all. Given the fact that she says she's petrified it's more likely that she's trying to get things reet in her head beforehand to avoid one of those awkward 'who's going to pay?'... "I'll get it"/"No, I'll get it" scenarios. Nowt wrong with that, at all
However when your in a relationship it becomes more equal. I wasn't saying i expect to be paid for as sometimes i hate that as i have found out in the past, especially those that insist on paying for EVERYTHING, even petrol in my bloody car !!
let him AND SAY 'THANK YOU!'
Mother StrubbleS did not taught me wrong!
Aw good stuff, a new outfit always makes a difference. Have a little pampering sesh when you get home and you'll be all set! Knock him dead
And of course you can always use it as a way of suggesting a second date. "Okay, I'll let you pay this time, but next time it's my treat."
I could always follow you around. Wear a blonde wig, pvc coat, head scarf and big Jackie O glasses a la 1960's spy thriller. Then again i'd look more like Lily Savage.
Don't do what i did when i went to Great Park last week. Go to the loo halfway through the film, come back, sit in the wrong seat and help yourself to some strangers pic 'n' mix
I've found in the past that the cinema is definetly a good un for first dates, because as the first bit is always the most nerve-racking...you don't really have to say much, so when it comes to the "drinks" afterwards you feel relaxed. Just don't get drunk on your first date, I have made that mistake before haha!
Cher xxx
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That's excellent.
xxx