my ex is a cheating wanker

Former Member · January 2001

I am soooooooooooooooooooo annoyed. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">

I just want to kill the guy coz all he dus is fuck with my head FUCKING WANKER ROT IN HELL! sorry <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">

Well i ges i'll have to tell the story...

We went out 4 a year and a half, and only just split up, b4 crimbo. During that time, he cheated on me, lied 2 me, and generally fcuked me up, which is partly the reason why i am so fcuked up now.

However, after he cheated being the forgiving person that i am, i forgave him. BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"> He always managed to put me down, and make me upset, and now i've just found out that he's going bak out wiv da girl that he cheated on me wiv b4.

Ok, so i wouldn't mind, but he's the only person i can tell stuf 2, and i thought he was my friend. He has been really busy recently, and he told me that he kept visiting his friend who had cancer. So of course i believed him, (im so fcuking gullible) and it turns out he's shagging this girl again.

I know i shouldn't b upset, i wudn't mind if it was someone else, but this girl, it made me realise that he never stopped liking her.

God i am such a freak. Why do i even care?

I ges it's the fact that i'v lost the only friend i had. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">

I hate him so much he's messed wiv my head and i want to kill him, i really do, he has made me so upset, i just want to kill him FUCKING WANKER!!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">

God im sorry. Im sorry i have been posting so much, everyones probably getting really sick of me, i just have such a fucked up life, and it just keeps gettin worse.

The more sand that escapes through the hourglass of time, the clearer we should be able to see through it.

Former Member · January 2001

We are your friends drifter & you know you can tell us anything <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

j9

I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

MTS ^5

Former Member · January 2001

We dont get sick of you posting at all just post away!

I know how you feel cos my ex went back with the girl he cheated on but reallt he cheated on her with me i suppose cos he was with her first.

Anyway yeah it makes u wanna scream and kill em and rip their crown jewels off i know!

MTS ^5

Former Member · January 2001

why do u say u shouldnt b upset ?? Course u r goin to b upset

the guy is an obvious asshole, he will probably cheat on his new g/f anyway

u deserve so much better than him, he sounds like 1 sick bastard

Former Member · January 2001

{{{{{{{drifter}}}}}}}} hey girl, post away. we'll always listen... the only ppl we are sick of posting are j9j9 (as opposed to j9, who is of course a completely different person) and daze. And me. And Broken. But that's all lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> j/k guys.

I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.

Former Member · January 2001

Originally posted by Turtle:
[Bthe only ppl we are sick of posting are j9j9 (as opposed to j9, who is of course a completely different person)
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Just popped in to say that we are one & the same bwaahaaahaaahaaahhaaa <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">

j9

Girl-From-Mars · January 2001

drifter, of course you're gonna be upset, i would be if i were in your position. its a bit like with my ex, we had broken up but stil trying to be friends, and then he tells me 2 weeks later hes going out with anna, the one id always been suspicious about something going on. i dont think he cheated on me with her, but its just quite disconcerting, being told hes going out with this girl that id always worried about from when she arrived on the scene.

i know it hurts, but do you really have to stop being his friend? maybe he was just lying to you about where he was going because he didnt want to hurt you by telling you he was back with her? its possible. after a little while to calm down and collect your thoughts, and for your feelings to settle down about the whole thing, do you think you could still be friends? although i know it must be hard to accept he is with this girl. i didnt talk to my ex for over 2 weeks when i found out he had got with anna, and he was my best friend before that. im trying again to be friends with him now, keeping in contact by emails. but i dont think i could ever be a proper friend to him again, coz i could never be happy for him in his relationship and ive asked him not to talk to me about her. so i know how you feel, kinda, if its any consolation <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

conversely, if hes always making you upset and putting you down, that isnt the sort of person you need for a friend, especially as you're depressed. you need to decide if you can accept him being with this girl and carrying on being friends, or having him out of your life for good.

If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.

Former Member · January 2001

Originally posted by j9j9:
Just popped in to say that we are one & the same bwaahaaahaaahaaahhaaa <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">

j9

Damn you girl!! Don't you ever go away!!! Like a bad smell you are!! roflol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> it's ok mumsy, we still love you <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">

I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.

Former Member · January 2001

I know how you feel Drifter cos my ex cheated on me its just so annoying...but I don't really think I'm in the position to comment on this whole subject at the moment.

i know you feel really angry with them and they are fucking wankers when they cheat on you. Just remember that he is not worth it and you can always talk to us.

Former Member · January 2001

he's such a wanker i hate him so much!

Thanks for the advice GFM but i really don't fink dat i can eva be friends wiv him, he's cheated on me and lied to me so many times, i'v given him so many 2nd chances iv lost count. It must be like, 100. i can't believe anything he says anymore because i don't know whether it's fact or fiction.

He sent me a message on my yahoo messenger it said:

"One day u'll wake up, realise what u've done and it'll be too late to get me back as a friend. I won't be losing out because i don't want a friend who won't let me have another gf. You can't control my life, that's too much. Goodbye..... forever!"

He always tries to lay this guilt trip on me, and it kinda freaks me out, and it has always worked in the past, i always go crawling back to him. I kinda feel bad though.

He's so manipulative. What makes it worse i ges is that he dusent even care that he's hurt me, and dusent care if he loses me as a friend either. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">

One girl that i hang around wiv is quite gud mates wiv him, and i'm realy scared that she will leave me 4 him. (in the past she has always dun wot he wanted)

I thought everything was sorted out, it was gr8 wen we were friends, i just can't deal with this rite now.

Girl-From-Mars · January 2001

as much as i sympathise with your situation... i can see his point. you arent going out any more, and so he DOES have the right to have girlfriends. i know its hard when exes find someone else, it feels like theyve undermined your whole relationship maybe, that it in fact didnt mean as much to them as they said well it does when your long term ex finds someone else 2 weeks later!!). but no one can ever remove the memories you have of being together, just try and forget the bad times and hold on to the good times and the good feelings in yor memory, and one day you will find someone to replicate that with, hopefully without all the bad stuff.

i think maybe you should tell him you need some time to get used to the fact hes back with this girl... he IS right that you cant control his life. you need to move on, and if that means stopping being his friend, then so be it. but he still wants you as his friend, the way i see it, just not if youre gonna dictate who he can go out with. and he does have a point. if you want to be friends with him, try and suppress your feelings about him and the girlfriend, youll be able to get over it someday.

that other friend of yours sounds like you dont need her if shes willing to go off with omeone else jsut coz you dont wanna be friends with them, thats a quite shitty thign to do to one of your good friends. surely she can be mature enough to be friends with you both, and not let that cause problems, if you dont want to be friends with the guy?

ultimately its up to you if you stay friend with him of course.. but if you think you will lose that much, losing his friendship.. then dont lose it, do something about it, tell him that you still wanna be his friend.

If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.

Former Member · January 2001

i haven't lost anything, he is the one that is losing out. Well ok, i have lost a friend, but i can't be dealing with a friend like that, especially with all the history. I just don't want to have anything to do with him anymore.

I went up to my room and threw myself about to Silverchair and Nirvana.

Now I am over it, and it no longer affects me.

I have found my inner calm.

The more sand that escapes through the hourglass of time, the clearer we should be able to see through it.

Girl-From-Mars · January 2001

ok if youve decided, it sounds like youve made the right decision, if he causes you that much stress and upset hes definitely not worth it!!

If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.

my ex is a cheating wanker

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