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Exs At Christmas
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Just a bit of a rant...every Christmas my ex's seem to reappear, some from perhaps just a year ago or so and others from years ago! I wish they would just leave me alone, but it seems whenever they are alone and especially at Christmas they contact me. It would be different if I was still close friends with them, but I am not. Being me I always feel obliged to say something back just to be polite. Maybe I should just tell them to fuck off though, but then I would seem like Scrooge.
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On a similar note, I've found that this is the time of year when a lot of couples seem to split up. Maybe it's the whole new year, new start thing? It didn't happen last year but was often the case throughout uni.
Don't feel angry. Or just change your number.
The thing I don't like about Christmas is that it's the only time of year I always bump into every single ex out on the town, usually on the same night. It's like running the gauntlet of ghosts of Christmas past
Highly bad luck! Lucky I live in a large place. Last year...bumped into two out of the blue on the same day within about two hours, hadn't seen them in years. We blatently saw eachother, exchanged a few odd glances then proceeded to ignore eachother.
Very scary! :eek: Not surprised you didn't say anything.
Well i didn't reply due to the fact that i have a boyfriend and i don't think it's right to be friends with ex's when it comes to present relationships, plus the bastard cheated on me twice!!
It's less bad luck and more the fact that we still all frequent the same nightclub. I have no intentions of going elsewhere just because some dafty I used to go out with will be there and I can only assume they think the exact same thing, so it's all a bit inevitable.
Sure it can be a bit awkward but I almost think of it now as part of the Christmas tradition... and they always get the drinks in! :thumb:
Just be civil with them, it's not nice to burn bridges.
I will shag about in my local boozers though, I don't mind it though because I still speak to them all and get on well with them all, it was known from the off it was only fun so I suppose there not even real exes. Seeing real exes where feelings are involved can be hard.
I text one of my exes the other week, hehe, and yes it was cos I was feeling lonely and it does make you think when xmas is about.
Speak it! Quite right. I was always the same, but now anyone who crawls out of the woodwork is swiftly booted back to where they came from
wasnt happy haha
My most recent ex I also see around Bromley (primarily in O Neil's again:rolleyes: ) because that's where I met him and it's where we both drink. I still speak to that one though.
When I go back a lot of people want to meet up, even those who I don't consider to be close to (I don't consider myself to have many 'close' friends). Maybe they just missed you and want to say 'hi'... I mean Christmas is a time when you think about things and maybe they just thought of you. Maybe they consider you a mate and know for a fact that you'll be home this season or have more time for people.