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worried about appearing too keen with a guy
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ok, is it too keen to ask a guy out on a date? long story short; met a guy, mate gave him my number+he txt me.asked me to meet up lots over the weekend, but i was busy whenever he asked. but i liked him alot, so i changed my plans+saw him....and now i cant stop thinking about him. i like him so much, so ive just text him askin does he wana see a film or something 2nite?
i feel like its a guys place to do this....but ive not got a problem with doing it either, just dont wana scare him off. he's so nice+i cant stop thinking about him :banghead:
L+C
i feel like its a guys place to do this....but ive not got a problem with doing it either, just dont wana scare him off. he's so nice+i cant stop thinking about him :banghead:
L+C
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don't be so old fashioned.
if you never asked to see him or anything he'd think you weren't interested.
im so sad....everytime i get a txt i feel sick im so excited it could be him!!
I have, and would again, lost interest in girls who don't make any moves. I get fed up with doing all the chasing (texting, calling etc). It's ok up to a point, but when it's me always aranging to meet then I just can't be bothered, so yes, text him.
ive decided im gonna let him text me next now...see if he likes me as much as i like him
L+C
Hi L&C, stop fretting or it will come across in your texts and when you meet him. The last thing you want him thinking is that you are needy and vulnerable.
Try and concentrate on having a laugh and exploring each others personalities etc, etc, etc. Basically have fun and chill out together. If you are worrying about what he might be thinking or feeling then you will do yourself no good whatsoever.
Wouldn't it be just so nice to sit on the veranda of a pub, or the window seat of a resturant and just sit, chill and people watch for a bit.
Anyway, it sounds like he is as keen as mustard on you too. Just let it flow and you will both have a super Xmas. Nothing like falling in love in the Winter. All snuggles under a blanket and Winter comfort food. Mmmmmm
i dont want to set myself up for a big fall, by liking him loads+then it turning out he doesnt like me as much and i end up getting hurt. So, ive decided im just gonna leave it til tomo/fri to text him....and just send him a casual text asking how he is+wot he's been upto etc.
alot of poeple, like me for example, text alot....bu tthen some ppl get annoyed by texting,....and since i dont know how he feels about texting, im scared of pissing him off!
any more advice?
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in all my successful (ish?) relationships i've just done what I wanted and not played games, just text/called when I wanted and asked to see the girl as much as possible. It's much easier on me that way, and if they don't like it then things obviously weren't meant to be.
Sometimes I would turn up at her house at 9pm after a 40 minute walk to talk to her for half hour before she went bed. She would give me a kiss on the cheek those times.
Ahhh, to be young again .
What's sad about it? I called my boyfriend up one or two days after meeting him to arrange the next date, couldn't be bothered arsing around and worrying about phoning and texting etiquette. You're bound to be keen in the early stages of a relationship, and from what you've said, it sounds like he is too!
just driving me mad bcos i cant stop thinking about him
the only time i think he'd be worried is if you bombared him with messages every half hour.
If telling someone you like them and contacting them (not constantly, but to say "hey" and possibly set up dates) is wrong then I don't wanna be right! :thumb:
HOWEVER, since you seem to be of the opinion (whether founded or unfounded) that maybe he's holding back for some reason or other, or is playing his own daft wee games. Well that would make me take a babystep back and I definitely think you're right not to contact him now. The ball is in his court now, but I'm sure he'll bat it right back to you if you give him a little space to see how utterly fabulous you are and how much he's already missing your company
Just chill, honey, some people go running into things all guns blazing and some like to have a little time to ponder and chill with their thoughts. If it's going to happen it'll happen whether you send one too few or one too many texts!
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a little chasing on both parts seriously gets you better results.
Text how much you want him, blah, blah, blah..... What you are going to do to him when you see him, blah, blah, blah....
Don't text "when will I see you" type demands or "what do you mean by that" or "why didn't you text me back??? U gone off me???"
You know what I am saying...;)
Some guys are put off by girls appearing too keen at the start...but it all depends on either individual. Letting him contact you first most but not all of the time, say, 60/40, is playing it safe and will maintain his respect.
Just make sure if one of you is doing most of the running at the start, it's him.