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moraly questionable situation?
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finally found the girl of my dreams, and she likes me too, we get along amazingly. small problem, she has already got a boyfriend, i know its wrong and i dont need people telling me that but i have to try it so i was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to win her heart?
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On a slightly related note, it kinda sounds like you're already putting too much pressure on something that hasn't even started yet. That's a sure-fire way to end up disappointed, (and freak her out) so cool it. She's not the "girl of your dreams" who you've "finally found." She's a nice girl who you like and who gets along with you.
ETA: Oh and it's not morally questionable, unless the bloke's your best friend or something, or you actively try and break them up.
plenty of people in relationships end up with someone else! just because she in a relationship, doesnt mean she wants to be in it, or wont consider ending it for the right person
to the OP, if she likes you as much as you/she says, she`ll end her relationship and be with you
if she doesnt do that, leave it alone, not worth the hassle
Sorry, I haven't exactly explained myself, have I?
What I mean is, whilst she is with someone else, DON'T try to break them up or make her end it. If she's happy, she's happy.
If she's happy with her bf you won't split them, you'll just end up being thought of as a cock; if she isn't happy I'm sure you'll be around to collect the pieces soon enough.
it might be a relationship of convenience
i think maybe he should find all this out though.........
How can the girl of your dreams not be single?
You can't steal somebodies girlfriend, as They aren't somebodies property to steal!
I think you should just ask her If she wants to be with you.
'oh, s/he's with someone... I wouldn't bother, it's not going to happen'
How can you possibly know the circumstances of the relationship? Hell - i've been in a relationship of convenience before... i'm not proud of myself but i've been in a situation of being with someone just to be with someone... however if someone better had come along id've dumped them in a trice.
Plenty of people have relationships just for the sake of having one (then wonder why they did it, when someone they really like comes along). Plenty of relationships might have been great at the start, but the person feels it has become stagnent or something. Plenty of people have a boyfriend for a month or so before they realise that they're probably not going to fall in love with them, so they end it. Or any number of other reasons people might not be happy in their relationships. And any of these people would swap what they have for someone they feel a real connection with.
Same situation, different username (StrubbleS), different country, same girl (of my dreams).
It did not work. Don't stand inbetween them and don't actively court for them, if they are in a stable relationship.
It will end terrible for you.
I know, you won't take my advice and still try to get inbetween them and win over the girl, so good luck with enduring the agony later on. (especially if she avoids you, because she can't handle a boy eshewing her, when she's in a happy rlship)
True, but I don't think Johnny is exactly saying that.
It's a good sign! but still don't rush things! If you try to interfere with the break-up it will be picked up as a rushing and you decrease your chances.
Moreover: Don't be 24/7 there for her so she can pour out your heart to you! That shit is getting you faster friends zoned than a a white man raped in compton!
But then, and I bet a real £50 note, that she will lose interest, because she wasn't interested in you, she was interested in flirting, and she'll be devastated she's lost the guy she loves.
On the other hand, if she wants you, then just leave it alone, and she'll break up with him, and then you two can get together.