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Anyone fancy loving me? I find I only find self worth from others approval, and right now that's fairly low (although got a boost earlier when two girls came and brought me hot chocolate in exchange for maths help). I'm not sure why I'm like this, but I end up feeling down if girls don't think I'm 'really cool' or fancy me or whatever.
This isn't a thread pleading for *hugs* or 'aww i think ur cool' or whatever, actually. I just want to know whats wrong with me? Why is it so difficult to be happy on my own? I could be happy being single so long as I got plenty of female attention... but why not just happy being me for a while?
I feel a bit down right now. Much love to you all
This isn't a thread pleading for *hugs* or 'aww i think ur cool' or whatever, actually. I just want to know whats wrong with me? Why is it so difficult to be happy on my own? I could be happy being single so long as I got plenty of female attention... but why not just happy being me for a while?
I feel a bit down right now. Much love to you all
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I know I need to hear things like 'you're really good at...' and 'You're a good mate' etc. Without it I'd feel pretty shit! I just think it's normal.
You can't be confident without some shred of evidence supporting why.
It's motivational, it's always great to get reassurance from people. I don't think you should be made to feel inadequate because you need approval from people. We're all different and get different emotional 'highs' from different things.
There's nowt wrong with enjoying praise or kind words, but when other people's kind (often throwaway, if we're honest) comments are the sum total of your self-worth then there's a little bit of a problem. Ideally, you need to get to the point where this praise (or cricitism) is nice and always appreciated, but is also superfluous because you know yourself inside out and are already aware of how great you are (and what your flaws are).
It takes a lot of time, but it'll come. Not only are you young and in a new chapter of your life but you've also had the carpet ripped from under you in your love life, it's understandable you'd be focusing on negatives and needing to feed your insecurities with approval from others. You seem to be a very analytical person which is good in that it makes you very sensitive to people and situations, but I can't help think it would be wonderful for you to be able to switch that brain of yours off once in a while
keep looking.
I'm like that. Sometimes I'm like "For gods sake, stop thinking about it, just do it you prick"
One of my keyboard buttons on my laptop just went off.
They don't generally like the smart kids or whatever. Like I said, it's sad but true. Most people can't appreciate good qualities in people until they're a bit older.
Hang in there, you WILL find someone special, just don't go looking for her. She'll find you.
Nah, I don't know this boy
I have deep rooted insecurites :-( but I'm sure with time I can get over them. I was talking to someone at my university last night and they said they think counselling would help me. But I dunno... they're getting paid to talk, I just want someone I can talk to about how beautiful Thailand is at night :cool: cos omg it is beautiful.
Being attractive might sure be make things a lot easier getting a girlfriend, but i guarantee you, succeeding with a date is far more difficult to get one (imho and experience). A good personality and looks is the best combination of course, but there's probably more to the problem than just the looks. Personality and being initiative is a great way to start. you can't make any major difference with your looks, unless you are considering plastic surgery of course, which might equally mess you up even more.
Didn't you get loads of attention when you were in Thailand?
They were ladyboys! :no: