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Condom troubles
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Really hoped I'd gotten past this. The whole retarded ejaculation thing is sorted. My girlfriend has no trouble getting me off with her hand or mouth. But then last week we tried full sex. I put the condom on and ... nothing.
It's like as soon as I take the condom out of its packet my willy goes 'Well what's the point?' rolls over and goes to sleep.
Think it's part psychological--it used to happen in my last relationship too--and part to do with the stopping of sensation. Any tips? Cheers.
It's like as soon as I take the condom out of its packet my willy goes 'Well what's the point?' rolls over and goes to sleep.
Think it's part psychological--it used to happen in my last relationship too--and part to do with the stopping of sensation. Any tips? Cheers.
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Thats what i was thinking
As for the magic fingers, it sounds good in theory but there's the pre-cum issue if her hands have already been down there.
And Playdead, did he at least offer to go to the clinic and get himself tested first? Cause if not you're definitely right.
but i've started bringing my own so its OK, just expensive but yea and it doesnt like me as much but whatever, i've taken too many risks to do it again
Playdead- did you know you can get condoms for free from your local Sexual Health Clinic?
Pre-cum isn't an issue for rolling condoms on, tbh, as the condoms have a spermicide and she shouldn't have to touch the head anyway. It does help a lot to get her to roll the condom on, especially if she plays with your balls at the same time. You will find it easier if you practise rolling it on- the roll of latex should be on the outside as you place the condom on you- but they do take some getting used to.
Playdead, you can get condoms cheaply or for free from the doctors or the clinic, but really if I were you I'd be telling him that if he doesn't wrap up he won't get any. He seems more interested in not wearing a condom than he is in your feelings- what a charming boy.
To try and rescue things with regard to using rubbers, definitely try getting her to put it on you. If you don't feel too bashful asking her/suggesting it then I have always found that putting on the condom while whispering some unadulterated filth in the bloke's ear or a bit of finger sucking (no, really) can rescue this kind of situation from the brink of disaster. Basically, taking the fella's mind off the task at hand is the way forward, whatever way she feels comfortable achieving that
I think most people hate them, which is why most long-term partners move swiftly onto the pill. It feels nicer without them, much more intimate. The only advantage of a condom that I can see is not having any mess to wipe up. I'd rather wear a condom than wear herpes, though, so you do have to trust your partner.
I never really bothered with them at all.
Condoms alone isn't the best form of contraception, IMHO, because they're fiddly and too many people don't know how to put them on properly. And its too tempting to just forget about them in the throes of passion.