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my head is so messed up, i cant concentrate, help me pls
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hi guys
ok heres the deal. me and my partner of nearly 4 yrs recently split up. he's really hurt me, and i had to end it, but my brain is a mess. im in my final yr of uni, but cannot concentrate on uni work, i have no motivation, and i feel depressed. he hurt me so badly+i just want to screamm at him, but i cant bcos we're trying to stay friends. Then, to make things more complicated, lots of guys i know are confusing me (see my recent thread in relationships).
i feel sick, my head hurts, and i constantly want to cry
i dont need this now, so can somebody suggest to me how i can take my mind off all this shite+get into my uni work, bcos i really need to concentrate on it at the moment:(
thanx guys
ok heres the deal. me and my partner of nearly 4 yrs recently split up. he's really hurt me, and i had to end it, but my brain is a mess. im in my final yr of uni, but cannot concentrate on uni work, i have no motivation, and i feel depressed. he hurt me so badly+i just want to screamm at him, but i cant bcos we're trying to stay friends. Then, to make things more complicated, lots of guys i know are confusing me (see my recent thread in relationships).
i feel sick, my head hurts, and i constantly want to cry
i dont need this now, so can somebody suggest to me how i can take my mind off all this shite+get into my uni work, bcos i really need to concentrate on it at the moment:(thanx guys
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You need some space, and THEN you can look to be friends.
When I was 18 my first boyf slept with my then best friend behind my back (all because I wouldn't sleep with him straightaway) - we split up straightaway but both of them wanted me to stay friends with the both of them immediately. Stupidly I did, and it was so hard, really messed me up - I got over it eventually, but itwould have been better if I'd not had any contact with either of them for a few weeks while I cooled off.
You need some time for you to come to terms with what's happened and get over it properly. In terms of your Uni work and all that I'd say have a break from that too for a few days if you can - do some serious pampering of yourself and then go back to it. Please take care of yourself...
Love cavegirl
xx
The truth.
best start a fresh on ur own trying to be friends so soon will mess you up. Also distance is a good thing, 4 years is a long time and wont be able to forget what you had but at least try and think of your self and look towards your own furture. hes prob doing the same just thinking about himself at the moment so just try and get on. if you feel its all getting to you i find going away for the day to sort your head out helps........ i did this when i have problems and need to think even if its just to the park and sit and think for a bit.
peace and quiet is great for the mind.
x
i think you're all right, maybe i am trying to be mates with him too soon....but i met alot of good friends through him, and we're all going the pub togther, like in a big group. its so hard to stop thinking about it!