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Barbird

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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Theres this bar bird in a pub that Ive fancied something rotten for months, its turning me into an alcoholic. Ive always just gone out with my mates and never really got into the relationship thing, just the weekend pull which is soo much easier after pills/coke and a few beers. Shes amazing, the more I see and speak to her the harder it is to get her off my mind. Its driving me fucking mad and she goes to uni in less than a week. WHat do I do?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    At the risk of stating the obvious, the only thing you can do is talk to her, tell her how you feel. Believe me, I know how hard it is to do that and i'm prob not best qualified to give advice on the matter, but it'll make u feel better. It'll be better to know either way - that way u can try to put her out of your mind. Or have some fun before she goes! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; All the best man.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Don:
    soo much easier after pills/coke and a few beers.

    It's a lot easier if you are high and drunk to tell a girl you have the hots for her. But it's not genuine.

    I will say the obvious too, you have to talk to her. But I should add a condition to this : you have to talk to her when you are SOBER. Get in that bar, don't take anything. Tell her that you would like to appreciate her 100% and you want to be sober so that you can have all your mind, because you enjoy a LOT more talking to her than drinking and getting high. In my opinion, love and drugs don't mix at all... As the band Roxy Music might say, in those circumstances, "Love Is The Drug".

    Good luck!


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Zero II:
    At the risk of stating the obvious, the only thing you can do is talk to her, tell her how you feel. Believe me, I know how hard it is to do that and i'm prob not best qualified to give advice on the matter, but it'll make u feel better. It'll be better to know either way - that way u can try to put her out of your mind. Or have some fun before she goes! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; All the best man.

    Cheers for the advise mate. I know shes working tonight so Im gonna get changed up and bite the bullet. Take care,
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Don:
    Cheers for the advise mate. I know shes working tonight so Im gonna get changed up and bite the bullet. Take care,

    tell us if it goes ok... if not tell me the location of the bar and the girls name and i'll go down and give it a shot <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    -w00t-
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by w00t:
    tell us if it goes ok... if not tell me the location of the bar and the girls name and i'll go down and give it a shot <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    Ho-hum. Absolutely fucked on charlie and lemsip, Ive got a nasty cough/cold thing going on. I did it but got the old "Im too busy" excuse. I said I understand and she started making excuses about working thur (which she was), and goign out w/ her mates fri (tonite) and how shed be back at xmas but I just wanted to get out as soon as I could and wasn't really listening. I wish women would stop speaking double entendres.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That's a shame mate, but fair play for trying. That takes guts.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Don:
    Ho-hum. Absolutely fucked on charlie and lemsip, Ive got a nasty cough/cold thing going on. I did it but got the old "Im too busy" excuse. I said I understand and she started making excuses about working thur (which she was), and goign out w/ her mates fri (tonite) and how shed be back at xmas but I just wanted to get out as soon as I could and wasn't really listening. I wish women would stop speaking double entendres.


    reading that i thought she was just playing hard to get....till i got to the 'i'l be home after xmas' part <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; hell...atleast you know now. and there ain't no shame in rejection , you should be proud.

    by the way...what exactly did you say that made her want to leave till xmas <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by w00t:

    reading that i thought she was just playing hard to get....till i got to the 'i'l be home after xmas' part <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; hell...atleast you know now. and there ain't no shame in rejection , you should be proud.

    by the way...what exactly did you say that made her want to leave till xmas <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Shes going up to Uni. Ive got someone that works for me up where shes going and Im probably going to be spending 2/3days a week up there but alas, in a town of nearly 300k I doubt I'll bump into her.
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