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Tired of short-term relationships
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I've just finished 1st year of Uni. Had 3 girlfriends since the start. The first dumped me for someone else, the second just didn't work, and the 3rd is looking like it's going to turn into a long-distance relationship that can't work.
I just want to be settled, be it single, or with someone (I prefer this option!!). I know it's just a case of time, but I feel like actively persuing a relationship is completely exhausting, but sitting back and waiting won't really get me anywhere either.
What do I do? There's a slim, slim chance this long-term relationship may continue, but for how long?
I just want to be settled, be it single, or with someone (I prefer this option!!). I know it's just a case of time, but I feel like actively persuing a relationship is completely exhausting, but sitting back and waiting won't really get me anywhere either.
What do I do? There's a slim, slim chance this long-term relationship may continue, but for how long?
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I feel like actively persuing a relationship is completely exhausting
I know the feeling, thats why I personally just take things as they come, its easier that way <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
What do I do? There's a slim, slim chance this long-term relationship may continue, but for how long?
Thats a difficult question which only yourself and the girl involved can answer, the things you need to ask yourself are 'Do you want to stay with this person', if the answer is yes then it could work, if the answer is no then do you genuinely want to carry it on for the sake of being in a relationship?
Long Distance Relationships can go two ways, they either work or they don't, but thats down to the people in the relationship. If you feel shes worth it then continue it, otherwise don't... theres no point dragging the heartache on longer if your planning to end it.
Honesty is always important in a relationship, can you both sustane with each others contact or will you go off looking for a subsitute?
I think you both need to sit down and talk things through, if you both want to make it work then theres no reason why you still can't have a sucessful relationship....
Hope that helps <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
[This message has been edited by Justin Credible (edited 17-09-2001).]
Ive been sort of single for the last year and in that time I have had what I would consider 3 possible relationships. The first did not want to commit to anything, the second turned out to be a complete Dick and the 3rd is still going on and has been for about 5 months, but thats hot and cold all the time. we are more like friends that have sex. I would like it to be more but he lives about 40mins drive away from me I wouldn't call this long distance at all but its a pain because we hardly ever see each other as he works different hours than me and to be honest I don't think he can be arsed to make the effort to come and see me and I refuse to be the one that always has to go to him. To be honest I really don't know why I'm with him cause he treats me like shit. But there we go.
Come to think of it I'm probably not the best person to be giving advice cause my relationships suck! Oh well.
In your case I get the impression that your already having doubts before its become long distance if you really care for this person then you can make it work. A friend of mine is going out with a girl that lives over 200 miles away and they've been together for over a year. As long as you both make an effort and are committed to one another then it can work.
Good Luck!!
Although I see myself as a guy who likes to go out, experience things and be flexible and have fun, my g/f is quite flirty and doesn't keep in touch as much as I'd like her to. At the moment there's a 150 mile gap, and soon it's going to be more like 600. I'm a bit of a paranoid type, possibly because I *want* a stable, long-term, comfortable relationship, and at the moment I have a stable, comfortable, new-formed relationship that in my eyes is in trouble -I don't know what her thoughts are about me vs long distance. I would love to be in a position where I can forget about everyone else and just stay devoted, but it feels like I'm asking to be hurt.