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friend self-harms
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Ok I'm at my wit's end. One of my best friends cuts herself... arms, her back, her legs, hips etc. I wanna help her but I just don't know how... says it some sort of 'release'. Anyone reading this used to do it? How did you get over it & what can I do? Any help greatly appreciated, cheers.
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Yes, I hated what I was doing to myself but that didn`t stop me. Its like I just stopped.
As for your friend, best thing u can do is not push her as this is likely to make it worse. Let her know you`re there for her, gently encourage her to talk about her problems and why she`s doing it, but don`t act disgusted every time it pops up cos this is likely to kill her self-esteem even more and that won`t help at all.
http://www.atforumz.com has a self-injury section where u may be able to get some more ideas.
"Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I very much agree with Talyn, really you shouldn't be pushing her to stop. I know it's very hard to see someone important to you hurt themselves, but I also know what it's like to be the person cutting and feeling very guity when someone wants u to stop and u can't.
"As for your friend, best thing u can do is not push her as this is likely to make it worse. Let her know you`re there for her, gently encourage her to talk about her problems"
honestly I think this is the best thing you can do for your friend. http://www.geocities.com/self_harm/ oh and here is a site all about self-harm just so you can understand it alittle better.
Your friend is very much not alone.
Good luck
TTFN
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i dont think the best thing to do is to nag your friend about stopping, it'll only make her more stressed and want to do it more, i should know. just talk to her about keeping the wounds clean, and taking care of them. also let her know that she can talk to you anytime if she wants or needs to.
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take care of yourself, keep in touch xx
Never have put pressure on her, I know that sort of thing can't help but she knows I hate it when she does it, but she also knows she has my full support no matter what. Anyway, I hope you guys are ok now about self-harm of are getting better. Again, thanx for your help! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
its no problem, dude. anytime <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Be supportive, find out facts, be there.
Tourette
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
peacechild
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