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Insecure
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In my life I have been let down and judged by so many people. Many putting me down which had led me to feeling very insecure in myself and my abilities. It plays havoc with my love life. I feel like I will never meet anyone who will just take and love me for me.I feel like I am never good enough both as a friend and as a girlfriend. How do I get through this and does anyone else feel that their insecurity affects them?
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I have never seen myself with a partner in a loving relationship because I know I wouldnt let that happen even if I had the chance. Im not secure in relationships and feel vulnerable because Ive been hurt in the past and Im so scared of it happening again.
I end up pushing people away if they get too close or treat me well and staying with the wankers that treat me like shit and confirm what I feel already...worthless! Sounds so stupid dont it, coz in the long run Im getting more hurt but I guess in a way its like u expect it anyway so instead of waiting for it u find it first, and that somehow makes it feel a bit better!
Im not making myself very clear but I no what I mean anyway lol!
The fact is u will never be anything but insecure if u dont have some faith and also give people a chance.
As much as it feels like u will never find love and u r no good for anyone, the only way to know for sure is to actually try and even if u hate yourself dont let others hate u aswell. Make sure u get treated exactly how u would treat someone else.
Im really trying to change how i feel about myself and shit like that, and the best thing ive learnt to do, is stop allowing others to treat me like shit. Now i only have time for those who give as much thought and respect to me as I do to them.
If u wanna try and feel better about yourself the best thing u can do is get rid of anyone who puts u down and dont treat u how u deserve to be treated...they r no good anyway and not decent people if they dont make u happy.
U r the only one who can do something about your insecurity and it wont go away untill u change the way u see yourself and how others c u too...hope this has been some sort of help and not just a load of waffle lmfao!