Somebody help me!

Former Member · September 2001

I am a Masters student in Computer Science .I dont have any girlfriends.Whenever i meet a girl i talk to her for a while and then i run out of topics.I met a girl on the Train we talked for a while ,she gave me her email address, i wrote to her she replied back .Now i want to keep this email converstion going on but i dont know what topic i should write to her about so that this email relationship continues and develops further.Tell me what usually one chats to a girl whom you have just met or know for sometime.She too is a student in Boston.
Please help me.

Former Member · September 2001

Dude we can't GIVE you topics to talk about, when talking to someone you just play it by ear and the conversations grow. Just talk to her as you would a male friend (not about guy stuff tho lol) And life should be a little easier

Former Member · September 2001

Just talk about stuff that makes u who u r.

If u r interested in films or music and stuff.

Former Member · September 2001

Yeah, write back asking stuff about her, what music shes into, what films she likes, her hobbies, and so on. People love talking about themselves, so ask her questions, and see how much in common you have.

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Former Member · September 2001

Thankyou everyone especially Kermit.I will send her an email according to what you have told me.Lets see what happens
One more thing she is far from my college .How do I ask her if we could meet sometimes .Tell me more about all this.

Former Member · September 2001

Dude you're so stressed out! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> Take it easy... Let it happen. Don't try to make yourself sound more interesting than you really are, because sooner or later you will get tired of playing that 'I am a very interesting guy' game. And plus, girls like modesty. So stay true to yourself and tell her everything that is going through your mind (ummm... *coughs*... every DECENT thing)

Ask her "do you think we could meet sometimes? that would be cool. we could just go out some place and talk about everything. well tell me what you think please and if you want, pick a date and time and i'll see if we could meet there! if you don't feel like it well its okay then i understand, you might have other things to do." Girls (and all human beings) love when they are given the choice to accept or refuse. If they are forced to accept they tend to refuse. If they are given the choice they always tend to accept.

~There are three types of people in this world : those who can count, and those who can't.~

Former Member · September 2001

Thanks a lot Frankie.I think you are right.Lets hope i do the right thing at the right time.I just hope that i had the guts like other guys i see around me leading an excited life along with their girl friends.
thanks for your advice once again

Former Member · September 2001

Well, I am a girl and I think in an e-mail like that I should just want to know what is on your mind. Of course not things like "I've got to buy some bread", but something a little special. I always liked weird, funny e-mails that showed the writer's personality. I wouldn't just pick a topic that someone else suggested. Just stick to what you're interested in. You want the girl to take interest in you and your views, not in someone else.

Former Member · September 2001

Thanks Eustacia.I appreciate the advice you have given me.

Former Member · September 2001

Hello everyone,
the first time i wrote to her she replied back.When i have again written to her this time she seems to be quiet(till now i havent got a reply).It was she who had given me her email ,I hadnt asked her.Now i am in such a situation that in an entire day i check my email around 20 times just to see whether she has replied or not and the more times i check and dont find her reply i get disheartened.She gave me her email and I thought that this was a start to our friendship but i think now i was wrong.I think i should just forget this incident and get on with my life.I had never a girlfriend and i dont think i will have one.
But all you guys and gals out there thanks for your advice .I appreciate it a lot.

Former Member · September 2001

Don't be desperate. You sound like a very sweet person and I'm sure a lot of girls have liked you before but have simply never told you.

Maybe something wrong arose on her side, you just can't know that really. Check your emails once a day and reply whenever you feel like it. This is not a 'who will reply the faster' contest.

What do you mean by 'I never had a girlfriend', do you mean you were never in a love relationship, or never in a friendship with any girl?

~There are three types of people in this world : those who can count, and those who can't.~

Former Member · September 2001

Thanks Frankie.
I mean i have got girl friends i talk to them they talk to me but theres nothing exciting in these friendships(they are just friends).I want one such girl who is close to me likes me ,always talks to me we go out together .You understand what i mean.

Former Member · September 2001

Don't worry happyone. Do you always answer your e-mails immediately? I don't. Sometimes even if it's something really important. Come to think of it, I tend to answer the unimportant ones before I venture on the important stuff. I always feel I need time to think about what to write. Give her at least a week before you think anything wrong. And it might be that it's no big deal even then. There are like a million reasons why she wouldn't answer your e-mail immediately. Also, you should take into consideration that she might not realise how much depends on this e-mail for you. I'm sure she'll reply soon.
Let us know what happened.
Good luck,
E.

Former Member · September 2001

I havent heard from her yet.I have lost hope.
I dont think she will reply.She seems disinterested.I was wrong from the beginning.
Her reply would have meant so much to me.
But its ok.This is life with its up's and downs.I am sad but i think i will getover it as time passes.

Somebody help me!

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