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hi
wot does everybody thnk about going away to university and living on campus away from home wen u r in a relationship? can long distance relationships work? do you think that the relationship would last? would it be a good idea to go to the same university as ur other half? i odnt want to pick a uni just cus my b/f is going there. i want to make sure it is the right course for me.he doesnt think like this.
i am going out wiv my long term boyfriend and doing alevels.this term we hav to decide on where to go to university. i would like to live away from home and so would my boyfriend but i really dont think we will go to the same one. and even if we go to ones near each other i am unsure to wether our relationship would work and wether we wud miss out on university life.
i dont know wot to do? will it better to go to the same uni as my boyfriend or not? and if we cant get in the same place would a long distance relationship work?
reply please
lv warped
Since i was born i started to decay. Nuthin ever ever goes my way.
wot does everybody thnk about going away to university and living on campus away from home wen u r in a relationship? can long distance relationships work? do you think that the relationship would last? would it be a good idea to go to the same university as ur other half? i odnt want to pick a uni just cus my b/f is going there. i want to make sure it is the right course for me.he doesnt think like this.
i am going out wiv my long term boyfriend and doing alevels.this term we hav to decide on where to go to university. i would like to live away from home and so would my boyfriend but i really dont think we will go to the same one. and even if we go to ones near each other i am unsure to wether our relationship would work and wether we wud miss out on university life.
i dont know wot to do? will it better to go to the same uni as my boyfriend or not? and if we cant get in the same place would a long distance relationship work?
reply please
lv warped
Since i was born i started to decay. Nuthin ever ever goes my way.
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Thats a hard question to answer. Some do, some dont. I had a housemate at university who was trying to keep up her relationship with her bf..They broke up 3 months after she started uni. It all depends on you and your bf.
Make sure you do pick the uni thats right for you. Dont make do with a crappy uni just to stay with your bf. Does he expect you to go to his uni or is he willing to go to the uni you want to attend?
Well that all depends on you. I had the most fun of my life at uni as a single guy..After the first few months everyone in my house was single and we all had a great laugh going on. You will no doubt miss out on some things if you are in a serious relationship.
It really depends on how much you love your current bf..If you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him then a long distance thing might work out fine. If you cant see him as a long term bf then you might wanna agree to split up.
Hes gonna be having the time of his life at uni as well. I think the best thing you could do is to sit him down and discuss this with him.
"An Englishman's never so natural as when he's holding his tongue." --Henry James
Since i was born i started to decay. Nuthin ever ever goes my way.
They just felt that it wasnt gonna work being so far apart. She got a boyfriend at the same uni about 6 months later.
If you two can get to the same uni then that would be good but unless you know youre gonna spend years with this bloke then dont give up your choice of uni to go to his.
Again its all down to you and how you feel about your bf. Its not something to take lightly so you really should talk to him.
did the fact that she hardly went out wiv u the first month annoy u? did it make u think less of her? did u not know her aswell as the others and do u think that was a bad thing? did that ruin the uni experiance for her the first few months do u think?
sorry for all the questions. please reply.
Since i was born i started to decay. Nuthin ever ever goes my way.
I think that would help a lot. It would be a lot easier if you were just an hour or so apart. If thats what you planned then it would be much easier to stay together than if you were on other sides of the country.
It didnt annoy me, there were 7 of us in house so we were ok. It was a little disappointing not getting to know her earlier tho as she was a right laugh.
Definately not. It was obvious she really loved this guy so no one minded that she wanted to spend time with him instead of us.
Well we got to know her cos we did things during the week as well but we really went wild at the weekends so I think the people who went out at the weekend got closer. We were all friendly with her but we got on better with each other. Not sure that makes much sense.
Well she missed out on quite a bit at the start and then for the next couple of months she was real worried about the relationship. She definately made up for the partying she missed though. I dont think she regretted trying to get the relationship to work.
Even thought she didnt come out at weekends, she still went out a lot. She wasnt stuck inside alone during the week or anything. She still came out with us a lot, justnot at weekends. Its not as though she was lonely and sitting in her room all the time.
Having said all that, there were people who did have successful long distance relationships. I didnt know them well though so i dunno how they did it. It really is just down to you and how much you love your bf.
The chances of it working are much higher if you are closer together tho.
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Honestly it's up to you to make it work. i'm applying for uni this year but im resisting getting into a relationship so i can concentrate on getting in and also because i can't be arsed with the hassle of the uni thing. But good luck for you twooooo!!!
what shall i do?
Since i was born i started to decay. Nuthin ever ever goes my way.
When I go back to uni in a couple of weeks I will be in a similar situation - my boyfriend has just graduated and is starting a law course in London. However, we have had the summer to get used to the long distance thing as we've only saw each other 4 times (including Leeds fest! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">)since term ended. But so far it seems to be working and as you have said, there's always weekends.
But DON'T become a social recluse just for your boyfriend - it's important to meet people and socialise too. He shouldn't take it as such a threat. Good luck!