My first time and i need advice!!

Former Member · May 2001

My first post, and it's gonna b an unhappy one! Okay, here it is:
I've been wiv my gf for a year, but she's in France, so i don't get 2 c her 2 often. Now she's met up wiv these guys from London (who r staying in France helping a friend of ours). She says she's not interested in them, i'm the only 1 etc. but they send her pretty saucy emails, and it looks like she could be encouraging them (I know this 'cos i set up her email account, so i know her psswrd). Plus, she seems to b going out all the time wiv them (just as friends she says) She's coming back 2 England on Friday, and i don't know wat 2 do. I know the way she dresses and she has a hot body, so attracting guys is bound 2 happen. What to do... Any ideas???

[This message has been edited by Oli (edited 21-05-2001).]

Former Member · May 2001

pretty difficult situation but i guess all u can do is trust her. try talking to her when she gets back and hopefully she'll be able to put ur mind at rest. but if u cant trust her then its ur decision whether u want to continue the relationship or not. hope it all goes well <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

Former Member · May 2001

Listen to Shazza coz she speaks sence, althogh she is a flirt.

Former Member · May 2001

hello oil, welcome to thesite. stay a while, it's a nice place to hang out.

this is a hard one cause i know that sometimes its very easy to get jealous of the things ur girlfriend does when she's hanging with guy mates.

but if she has given you no real reason to doubt then u have no reason not to trust. i think ur going a bit far by reading her email.

and if you think she's doing stuff, then confront her with it and tell her it's bothering you. she might love you enough to change a little. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">

good luck.

Former Member · May 2001

If she's as hot as you say then it's only natural that she will flirt a bit with other guys. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you. Tell her how it makes you feel and if she values your relationship she will do something about it.

btw - my first post! hi all! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">

Former Member · May 2001

Originally posted by Snoop:
Listen to Shazza coz she speaks sence, althogh she is a flirt.

well thanx snoop!! first time u've actually agreed with summet i said, lol and im no flirt!! well not as big a one as you

welcome to the site oli and someguy <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> hope u both like it here

Former Member · May 2001

Does she know you've been reading her emails?? I don't think that's fair at all if she doesn't. It's a complete invasion of her privacy! Perhaps you shouldnt do it even if she knows you are; if there is something she wants you to know, she will tell you.

"Relationships - of all kinds - are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold on to some of it, but most will be spilled. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost."

----not to say that you are being possessive, just be careful when you talk to her that it doesn't seem that way.

Freya xxx

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My first time and i need advice!!

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