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a mixed up love triangle
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I'm new here, so you'll have to bear with me...I have a bit of a dilemma and maybe some other people's input would be of help. I've liked this guy for a while (never really said anything about it, but I did have feelings for him). A few weeks ago an acquaintence (hardly a friend, I think I'd only said two words to her before this day), told me that she liked this guy too...I decided not to say anything about having feelings for him myself, and opted to just change the subject. Well, this guy ended up telling me that he liked me too and we hooked up. Word got back to this other girl and now she absolutely despises me and him and he's upset about it because he's lost a friend over it (her). Now it's almost as if he's avoiding my phone calls and I haven't seen him in over a week. He keeps telling me I should be worrying more about mending my ways with this girl more than I should be concerned about when I'll see him again. I have no idea what I'm supposed to say to her, and what am I supposed to do about him practically BANNING me from seeing him until I clear things up with her?? AH!!! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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Yeah that seems like quite a tricky one to me, mayb what u need to do is talk to this girl, explain to her you didnt want to say anything before because you didnt wanna complicate matters further. Explain to her that you didnt wanna hurt her and ask her honestly if it was the other way around what she would do.
Try talk things through with her,
then go back to your bloke say to him i tried to sort things out, if he doesnt accept it tell him where to go, you can have fun without him.
Anyway, suggest that you three sit down together and talk about it. I don't know if this approach will work, it depends how old you all are, or how mature, because younger people prefer to shout at each other (I know, I've been there!) than have a conversation to settle differences.
I think your boyf is being unreasonable because she wasn't actually your mate!