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what is the best way to pull u ladies?
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hey everyone.
i hav often wondered what is the best way to pull a woman in a club? The amount of girls i know who hate blokes dancing up behind them, making corny remarks or buying yhem drinks is amazing. so how do we men get ur attention and pull u?
i hav often wondered what is the best way to pull a woman in a club? The amount of girls i know who hate blokes dancing up behind them, making corny remarks or buying yhem drinks is amazing. so how do we men get ur attention and pull u?
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I mean, chat up lines don't work nowadays...
Today's people have a much higher personal barrier/bubble than people of previous generations. Sometimes you try to make a conversation and they might be thinking "Who the hell are you? I don't know you..." Do you see what I mean? Talking to a stranger is strange enough...and let's be honest, the only reason (possibly) why you want to pull that girl is purely because of her appearance, which is fair enough (packaging is important), but what if that's what the girl is thinking as well? Won't she thinks that you're a bit shallow?
You see, I'm kind of trying to find out what goes through a girl's mind when a random strange walks up to them and start a conversation...
What is it that crosses a girls mind first? Freak? Or "Yeah, I got some attention!"? Or is it something else?
[This message has been edited by Chatbox (edited 04-12-2001).]
Just say hi, and see how it goes, if she responds well keep going, if she grunts at you then youre outta luck that time. Move on, try another lass.
"Men rarely, if ever, manage to dream up a god superior to themselves. Most gods have the
morals of spoilt children." Robert A. Heinlein
the majority of clubs are too loud to be able to chat to u and therefore it tends to end in a shouting match with both girl and boy, punctuated with remarks and thoughts like 'i hav no idea what u just said'
theres no justice in the world. besides - what do u talk about if u do hav the opportunity. 'hi im ...., whats ur name?' rarely works (if ever) and things like 'wow that top would look great on my bedroom floor' tend to get a slap. please note i hav never and would never use such a line as that ... unless it works <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Also how you react if you think someone takes a fancy to you. It has to be the case that you acknowledge them if they do. Maybe cocking your head a little to show them that you've piqued their interest, or do something else a little out of the ordinary. Therefore if they react then you can be sure enough that it isn't someone else they like.
After that maybe go up to them and ask them a simple question like do they want to dance or want a drink. It's an easy icebreaker, and dancing doesn't require any verbal communication but is still a form of communication. If you buy them a drink on the other hand, I find it is a bit quieter at the bar and you can normally uphold a decent conversation.
OK in short break the night into three stages:
1) Confidence building and setting the mood.
2) Recognition of who might like you and whether you like them.
3) Ice-breaking with a short, coherent question or greeting and then finding a way to communicate.
It has to be remembered it is possible to make someone laugh without talking to them.
OK hope I'm right and this isn't an objectionable to anyone by being incompatible with setting up an initial personal relationship with someone. It seems rational, but I'm still trying to work this thing out for myself.
Oh and one more piece of advice, if you do act on a plan, make sure you make it intrinsic to the way you work, the last thing you want to do is stop somewhere and think 'am I doing the right thing here?'