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I've been "lurking" on these boards for a while to see if I could find the answer to my problem, but so far no luck at all!
Just to introduce myself I am 18, and just started Uni this year.
Unfortunately I havent' had too much experience with girls mainly due to my looks <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> People says looks don't count, but I reckon unfortunately they do! If anybody is really kind I'll send you my awful passport photo!
I've had a couple of girlfriends but nothing really major. Obviously this doesn't do much for my confidence!
Anyway, as I said I started Uni in late September... I didn't know anyone on my course at all. I was one of the first there waiting for our introduction meeting. The only other person was an attractive young girl <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Anyway we got chatting, just about general stuff, i.e what's ya name, where you come from etc...
We were getting on pretty well and it was nice to have someone to talk to! Anyway everyone on my course, we were all split up into small classes of 15 of which you spend all your time with in lessons. Anyway I was really hoping I would be with her!
However, unfortunately, we were put in different groups! I was slightly upset and was even more annoyed when I looked at the group lists when she was the last person in group 3 and I was the first in group 4 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> ( the groups were done in alphabetical order)
She said "Oh that's a pity, sod's law!"
Anyway, things turned out ok as I was moved into her group <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
That's all background info! I don't know why I've told you all! Anyway over the past few months we have spent most of our uni time togther, we share the same sense of humour, have a good laugh and have plenty to talk about. We spend a lot of time talking by txt messages aswell ( costing me a fortune!)
Things are going great and I've got feelings for her now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> Unfortunately she said the other day " I'm SORT of seeing a guy at home, but it's nothing serious, I know he likes another girl at work but I'm not bothered"
Now this really confused me! She emphasised that it was nothing serious. What really confused me was this about her bf, liking another girl and that she wasn't bothered?
This gave me the indication that it's nothing serious!
Anyway, ( oh god, I still haven't asked my question yet have I?) we
Anyway, it turns out that she has got quite a few mates who are indeed blokes but nothing going on with them.... However I don't wnat to be just "a friend".
Due to me being low on confidence I'm reluctant to make a move due to embarassment and I'm always thinking " What if she say's no?"
If she does not me back, it would spoil everything and It would be pretty embarasing over the next 3 years! As you don't forget when people ask you out!
Anybody willing to dish out any advice? Sorry for my waffling!
Cheers
Just to introduce myself I am 18, and just started Uni this year.
Unfortunately I havent' had too much experience with girls mainly due to my looks <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> People says looks don't count, but I reckon unfortunately they do! If anybody is really kind I'll send you my awful passport photo!
I've had a couple of girlfriends but nothing really major. Obviously this doesn't do much for my confidence!
Anyway, as I said I started Uni in late September... I didn't know anyone on my course at all. I was one of the first there waiting for our introduction meeting. The only other person was an attractive young girl <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Anyway we got chatting, just about general stuff, i.e what's ya name, where you come from etc...
We were getting on pretty well and it was nice to have someone to talk to! Anyway everyone on my course, we were all split up into small classes of 15 of which you spend all your time with in lessons. Anyway I was really hoping I would be with her!
However, unfortunately, we were put in different groups! I was slightly upset and was even more annoyed when I looked at the group lists when she was the last person in group 3 and I was the first in group 4 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> ( the groups were done in alphabetical order)
She said "Oh that's a pity, sod's law!"
Anyway, things turned out ok as I was moved into her group <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
That's all background info! I don't know why I've told you all! Anyway over the past few months we have spent most of our uni time togther, we share the same sense of humour, have a good laugh and have plenty to talk about. We spend a lot of time talking by txt messages aswell ( costing me a fortune!)
Things are going great and I've got feelings for her now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> Unfortunately she said the other day " I'm SORT of seeing a guy at home, but it's nothing serious, I know he likes another girl at work but I'm not bothered"
Now this really confused me! She emphasised that it was nothing serious. What really confused me was this about her bf, liking another girl and that she wasn't bothered?
This gave me the indication that it's nothing serious!
Anyway, ( oh god, I still haven't asked my question yet have I?) we
Anyway, it turns out that she has got quite a few mates who are indeed blokes but nothing going on with them.... However I don't wnat to be just "a friend".
Due to me being low on confidence I'm reluctant to make a move due to embarassment and I'm always thinking " What if she say's no?"
If she does not me back, it would spoil everything and It would be pretty embarasing over the next 3 years! As you don't forget when people ask you out!
Anybody willing to dish out any advice? Sorry for my waffling!
Cheers
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Good luck in whatever u do
Or talk to her about her guy @ home more n see where things are at with them first.
Be carefull though...
xxxs
No man is worth your tears, and the one who is wont make you cry.
Just talk to her, maybe flirt with her a bit, and watch her reactions. Dont plunge in telling her that you love her, just take things slowly. See how she feels about her bf back home..she doesnt sound too keen on him, show an interest and ask her about him.
Good luck mate, it can work out falling for mates. My gfs a good example <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
It matters not who won or lost, but how you place the blame.
She told me today that he and bf are "playing very silly games" at the moment and that it's virtually off.
I've had a chat about with some of my mates but they have just said the usual! Which is tell her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> But as we all know, it's hard to just come out with a shocking statement like that and most generally it will mess things up !
I think I'm going to for sublte approach <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> Lets hope Captain Kirk is wrong and I follow Kermit's example <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Cheers once again!
xxxs
No man is worth your tears, and the one who is wont make you cry.
There are two silly comments in this sentance, can you spot them?
1) Could Kirk could ever be wrong? He wouldn't ever admit it would he?
2) Following Kermits example, the road to destruction my son.
<IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/badrazz.gif"> It's all in the tounge, baby! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/badrazz.gif">
Im not sure whether or not I should be flattered! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
It matters not who won or lost, but how you place the blame.
Normally on a Monday we have 2 hours between lectures but this week we have 4 hours! I commute to Uni ( Leeds ) and she has a house.... Shre has invited me to her house for lunch <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
ok, yes, u are in the dreaded "just good friends" zone, and it's dangerous to move out of that.
first off, asking out friends, and being rejjected can still work - i asked out a girl i knew pretty well and she said no, better just to be friends. so we are - best mates, in fact.
bare in mind that as a friend u have special status, u can flirt with her n stuff and just pass it off as being affectionate.
my advice - if she's a "special" friend, be happy with what u've got. if u ask her out, ur taking a MASSIVE risk, and ur right, it could backfire. but if it works, well, u might have somehting to look forward to. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
good luck, hope we've all helped ya
If there's anything more important than my ego around here, i want it caught and shot now
I've only known her for 3 months so it's not we have been friends for years is it?
There is still a lot we don't know about each other... I'll have to see how it goes <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">