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Pain When Peeing?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
My girlfriend has recently started feeling pain sometimes when she pees. At first it was bad and she went to the doctor. He told her she had a urinary track infection. SHe took the medacine and started to feel better but it still bothers her sometimes when she pees.

Do you think there could be something else wrong besides a urinary track infection? SHe is going to see a specialist today but i just wanted to know if anyone knew what else it could be, if anything.

Also, she recently had to tell a doctor infront of her mom that we have had sex. It really bothers her, any advice on how to handle it? (she is 16 and i am 17)

Thanks a lot!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well, first of all, this would probably belong to the health-section.

    then...
    Since she saw a doc for it already and now sees a specialist, there isn't much we can tell you. Just for the future, the doc most probably prescribed her an anti-biotic. If you get those prescribed, always finish them!!! (except the doc says different), or it isn't granted that all of the bacteria is killed of, and they might get resistant to the anti-biotics then.

    It MIGHT be some kind of STD too (since it didn't go away with the meds). If you both were virgin and hadn't any sex partners inbetween, there isn't much to worry, but it wouldn't be wrong to get tested yourself mate!

    Finally, how long have you been together? Unless her mother is some hardcore christion she wouldn't be really bothered by her 16 year old daughter having sex with a reasonable man of only one year age difference.
    She might have a talk with her tho, about contraception, etc. (mum's tend to worry a bit, understandable of course!).
    Don't be afraid, you are both in the age of consent (unless you live in ughadaschukudana), and her mum will most probably be fine with her daughter having sex (not a whole lot she can do to prevent anyway!).

    good luck mate.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i just talked to her. Her mom is a little upset with her because she thinks it is no nessecary. I know people will say we dont know that we love eachother and we are young but i honestly love her and she loves me. That is the reason we have sex. AND i know you dont have to have sex to show you love someone but we both wanted to.

    The doctor told her that is the reason she has the urinary track infection. Too much intercourse. He told her to just make sure she Pee's right after she has sex and he gave her antibiotics but told her just to take them if she feels alot of pain.

    Her mom is making her feel guilty. Any advice on what i could tell her to make her feel better? She feels bad i really want to make things better =(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mike_17 wrote:
    he gave her antibiotics but told her just to take them if she feels alot of pain.


    Excuse me ???????

    Antibiotics don't work like that. You don't just take the odd tablet when you feel a bit of pain. Antibiotics work by gradually building a level of AB in your system, which eventually will be stronger than the infection and thus start to kill it off. Believe me i've had loads of courses of AB's, preventative and curative because of a supressed immune system. Either ya doc is a nut or ya gf has got the instructions wrong. If she is taking AB's only when she feels pain, no wonder they aren't working.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well she was taking them before all the time. Let me reword what i said. At first she had a lot of pain and now it is small to none. He said that she has them so if it happens again, where she has a lot of pain, she needs to start taking them again.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    TBH Mike, i think a trip to a GUM clinic may be the answer. They have better resources for testing, and there isn't one antibiotic that works for everything. If she still has a bit of pain, then there's still something wrong. It's nothing to be ashamed of, going to a GUM clinic, and they're better qualified and resourced than your GP. I go to a GUM clinic a lot, i'm HIV+, and they're really nice people and not judgemental. Getting an infection 'down there' is nothing to be embarassed about, 10's of thounsands of people get them. Find out where you're nearest one is and make an appointment.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd second rubberskin, the GUM clinic would probably be the best place. You can both go, without her mum and see really nice people who specialise in Genito Urinary Medicine (ie the experts in this case).

    In general drinking plenty and peeing straight after sex will probably help, but isn't a final solution.

    As for her mum, she'll get over it eventually. There seems to be an inbuilt feature in most mothers that likes their daughter as a little girl, rather than one that's growing up....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mike_17 wrote:
    well i just talked to her. Her mom is a little upset with her because she thinks it is no nessecary. I know people will say we dont know that we love eachother and we are young but i honestly love her and she loves me. That is the reason we have sex. AND i know you dont have to have sex to show you love someone but we both wanted to.

    What the crap? "there is no necessity!". The necissity is there, because you FEEL like it, and you WANT to do it. It's totally o.k. to have sex with that age. It's not like anything or anyone pressures you into it, and her mom needs to give her a stern for "being so stupid to think sex is necessary"...

    Her mum is just overprotective, because she cares for her dauther.
    Tell your g/f to take a deep breath and talk to it about her mother. She shall tell her, you are doing it, because you're both feeling like it, you like the sex and that you are contracepting (if that's the word of contraception, I dunno), and that there is nothing wrong with it whatsoever.

    My mum started smoking with 16 and would 'kind of' tear my head of, if I would be starting, but in the end there isn't anything she can do, because it's my choice. She is overprotective and I think your g/f (and maybe you too!) should take up the courage, show maturity and talk to her about it, if she's concerned.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, her mum will get over it soon enough, though its not encouraging for a mum to hear her daughter has got an infection due to "too much intercourse".

    anyway yeah i think a GUM clinic is a good idea, and im no doctor but i think she shud have been on the anti-biotics longer, because urine infections can take ages to go away. So yeah go to GUM - without her mum, and keep with those antibiotics :)

    strubbleS i just realised you live in vienna - im going there in march 2007!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If its a urine infection then I recommend cranberry juice it is meant help
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    there are also over the counter treatments you can get to ease the stinging. Saying its purely down to intercourse sounds somewhat untactful of the doctor. The majority of UTIs are caused by e.coli, which is frequently naturally healthily found in the anus, and wearing too tight pants or wiping the wrong way can also cause this kind of thing.

    Her mums probably freaked out that the first time she realised her daughter was sexually active, was when her daughter was informing her doctor. I guess she would have liked to habe been confided in prior to that?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i think you should stop all the "intercourse" till she gets better mike!!
    and you should both get yourself tested etc..
    good luck!
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