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Time to come out?/ Confused.
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As some of you may or may not know, I'm pretty confused <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"> about my sexuality at the moment. Thing is i'm 18 now, and i sorta think my parents are waiting for me to bring a g/f home. I mean been with girls, but i also have feelings for guys.
I don't agree with the labelling of sxuality on people though and this is why i would find it hard to "come out" to my parents. But would they understand bi-sexuality? I think my mum would but my dad's of an entirely different generation that would still be quite shocked. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">
Also, i think i should be experimenting with men before i come out, but how do i go to Gay clubs or get into that scene without going out without fiends?
Cheers for any help. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">
Tourette <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
I don't agree with the labelling of sxuality on people though and this is why i would find it hard to "come out" to my parents. But would they understand bi-sexuality? I think my mum would but my dad's of an entirely different generation that would still be quite shocked. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">
Also, i think i should be experimenting with men before i come out, but how do i go to Gay clubs or get into that scene without going out without fiends?
Cheers for any help. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">
Tourette <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">
"I must find a truth that is true for me......the idea for which I can live or die."(Soren Kierkegaard)
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http://www.thesite.org/relationships/lovelife/exploring_your_sexuality.html
http://www.thesite.org.uk/relationships/lovelife/coming_out_checklist.html
http://www.thesite.org.uk/relationships/lovelife/bisexuality_common_misconceptions.html
http://www.thesite.org/relationships/lovelife/the_wrong_label.html
Good Luck
Susie <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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When YOU decide YOU'RE ready to tell, i'd suggest you tell a close female friend or relative (sister/cousin) first. That way when you come to tell your parents it won't be the first time you've had to do it and you could have your friend there for some moral support. Whatever you decide and whatever sexuality you are, remember you're an amazing person and tons of people love and care for you, little me included. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Problem number 2:The "gay scene". Without wishing to scare you off, there's loadsa peeps on the scene who'd stab u in the eye rather than look at you and wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. That being said there's tonsa guyz n girlz who are resl cool and v.nice to be with.Me included (again!) <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> You know Boots Bar in Wrentham Street? I used to work in there and being behind the bar of a gay club sure opens ya eyes. You wouldn't believe the shitty, catty, nasty and downright evil things queens can say. But, and remember this, you MUST rise above it, if it's said about you. Don't take it to heart or it'll start to get to you. Just say to yaself or a mate, he/she's a twat and move on. Why don't you go to a bar during the day. Missing and Angels are open in the day. Why not pop in with a friend and just have a quick drinky and look round. If you want to go out on the night Id suggest you go to Route 2, coz it's a young crowd. I don't like it coz the music is too mainstream and i like my hard house, coz i'm a pillhead! Or go to DV8, coz it's real friendly, all open planned and a real good night out. But go with a mate (guy or girl) and it'll be a lot of fun.
I hope this helps you angel. You can always contact me on this thread, or you're more than welcome to E-mail me. I live in Birmingham so i'm not too far away if things go bad and you need someone to talk to. And NO, it's not a chat upline, coz i got a boyf who i love to bits. But people DO care angel, they care a great deal. Know you've got a friend in rubberskin. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Love and hugs and tons of support to you.
KevvyXxX
Thanks for the support Rubberskin, you're a darling. Just when i thought all the nice people had left the board (where are you Charley & Clara? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">) you re-ignited my belief. Thanks!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
I don't really know what to do. I mean. i need someone who i can trust and quite simply that person isn't around at the moment. I think i'll probably leave it until i get back from my gapyear, as i think it would be too difficult to simply declare i'm gay and then clear off for 6 months.
I'm gonna experiment, leave some time and then decide what to do.
Just thanks for being so undestanding.
Luv
Tourette
I'M HERE!!!! Nooo I hadn't gone anywhere much, just posting a little less because of coursework and my millions of other stupid problems...
But as again, I can't give much more advice than Kevvy because he's pretty much said it all (nice one Kev), but what I will say is you have my email so you know where I am ok?
Take care xxx
Devon
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