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Depression

BillieTheBotBillieTheBot Posts: 8,721 Bot
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This is something really hard for me to write about. I have felt down for a long time now, unenthusiastic about things. Felling unhappy is like my normal state now. I just started uni and I feel so lonely. All my flat mates get on and go out all the time and don't invite me. My boyfriend is 100 miles away and I really miss him. I don't know what I can do to feel better. I just stay in my room and go on the internet. I thought I would really enjoy uni but I just can't seem to make friends. Help me please. I can't go on like this much more. I've been thinking about quitting but I know that would not help anything.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey hon, listen i was in the same kinda situation until recently -although under slightly different circumstances- and you'll be surprised how quickly things will get better. One thing will spark it off, ie you'll meet a new group of peeps. Unfortunately that doesn't come without effort, u gotta go out a couple of times, even if it is by yourself. I doubt you'll be by yourself all evening.

    Ring your bf when you feel down, and i know this might seem really hard, but would talking to one of ur flat mates help at all? If they know how you're feeling they might be slightly more sensitive in going out without you and the likes.

    Hope i've helped, remember things can only get better!! :-)

    xxxs

    No man is worth your tears, and the one who is won't make you cry.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Just try not to feel alone, you will make friends sooner or later. Sounds to me you are a little home sick. And dont forget you have all of us here to talk to, I know that isnt much consolation but we are.

    Take care and get yourself out and about
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks guys.
    Where are you from in Birmingham, I am from there too!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know how you feel. My first year was a let down, but a few hobbies and a part-time job have done wonders.

    Drag your B/friend up at the weekends and go out with him, you'll have fun and meet some new people at the same time.

    Persevere and above all keep on smiling :-).

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I felt the same all through my first year, and am now in my second year and determined to make it change. I now have a fantastic boyfriend, and a part time job which means i get to meet people, and am looking for societies to join to meet new people. You will meet people if you get out there and do something , it is much much easier said than done, but it is worth it. join some societies, talk to people in lectures, invite people out yourself. It'll feel like you are making all the effort at first but in time people will make the effort back and if they don't they aren't worth it. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; keep smiling, it'll get better! (and feel free to email me if you ever want a chat!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This is gonna sound hard angel, but it's meant with kindness and affection, ask the guys who know me.
    Get off your arse and get out that fucking flat. Do ya make-up, get ya glad rags on and have a good time. I'm a gay guy yeah, and the gay scene (pubs & clubs) can be pretty daunting so never went out. I'm 34 now and started going out on the scene bout 18 months ago and God do i have a good time now. I always see someone i know. In no time at all ya gonna make loadsa mates & have some brill times. Don't let the world pass you by, like i did. I'm HIV+ now so try to live as much as i can, while i can. I know it's hard going out on your own, but once you start making friends it's gonna be brill for ya.
    Luv n hugs...KevvyXxX
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by KrazedKT:
    Thanks guys.
    Where are you from in Birmingham, I am from there too!

    Castle Bromwich, if all else fails I will go for a drink with u.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for all the nice comments guys. I went to see student advisory today about transferring and they were really helpful. I made myself go out tonight with my flat mates to see a band and I met some really nice people. :-) And my b/f is coming to c me on Friday. So I suppose it's not so bad...
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