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Coping With A Break Up?
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What's the best way to get over and stop thinking about your ex after youve finished together? I finding it really really hard at the moment, i cant eat anything, ive been physically sick, and i cant get her out of my head.
Need some nice advice please.
Thanks, Brad.
Need some nice advice please.
Thanks, Brad.
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buy that. It's a 10.000 pieces puzzle with very few and dark colours. If you finished it, you are over her.
It's always difficult [URL=":[URL="http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/singles/singlelife/acceptingitsover"]accepting that a relationship is over[/URL], even if you know that the relationship wasn't working and that breaking up was for the best. You share so many things when going out with someone, thoughts, ideas, plans, ambitions etc and it's hard trying to come to terms with the fact that you will no longer be sharing those things with that particular person.
That doesn't mean that you won't be able to share these things with someone else though. In time it will get easier recognising that there are other people who you can become that close to. This doesn't necessarily mean another girlfriend either. Take this opportunity to draw closer to friends and family. Do things for yourself - indulge in things that make you happy. You deserve to spoil yourself, you're going through a hard time.
Unfortunately there's no magical cure for what you are going through presently but it will get easier and you will feel yourself again before too long. Hang in there and remember...treat yourself to those things that make you happy
Add crying to that and i am right there with you right now!
CRYIN MY EYES OUT
LOUD MUSIC
WORKIN MY ASS OFF AT THE GYM
Just cant eat or sleep properly yet
did you really think this girl was 'the one' who you were going to settle down with and marry? :eek2:
When I split up with my ex my friends took me to loads of stand-up comedy nights. Occasionally they cheered me up... most of the "comedians" made me feel even more miserable, depressed and despairing of the world :razz:
Oh, and if creating a dartboard with your ex's face on it seems like a good idea, do it. Very theraputic, but only really works if you're in the RAGE phase of coping.
We also ( only once because we couldnt afford to do it again ) bought some cheap ceramic plates outta tesco and a perm marker, wrote down something i hated her doing and them trwing the plate as far into the air as a could. the last plate i wroted the word 'relationship' and broke it.
felt good.
so my advice is jsut hand with mates, and do something really fun as much as you can.
When I was getting over my ex, I found it just took time....I know that's frustrating, because there's nothing you can *do*, but that's really the best thing!!
Also - don't fight the way you're feeling, just kind of ride it out - accept it, feel it, and eventually you should be able to move on.
Also though - spend lots of time with your family and friends, people who think you're great no matter what!!! Always helps...good luck! :thumb:
We're so incredibly close, I'm desperate not to lose him as a friend mostly. Ironically, he's helped me the most in getting through this.
I suppose patience is important. It's not going to magically get better. I, personally, like to be surrounded by people. Have had problems with eating and sleeping, and have been concentrating on me, which is strange after concentrating on 'us' for so long I guess. It's not just destroying losing him, it's destroying simply losing a 'partner'.
The sleeping is better. I watch Friends or listen to the radio until I fall asleep. And next week me and my friends (including him) are going camping, which is just perfect. I'm never alone, am concentrating on the basics in life and being 'back to nature' always gives you a magical new perspective. I'm thinking about my gap year a lot, sorta 'reconstructing' my future plans where he is just my friend, not my boyfriend.
Don't be alone. And don't put on a front. If your friends get sick of you talking about it then find someone who will let you talk about it, even if it's online. Otherwise, you get stuck in your own head.
Anyway, I'm only a few days into this and this is my first major serious break up. So I shall track my progress.
And oh, the cliches are true, I've been told. Time really does help and everything happens for a reason.
Good luck everyone.
6 weeks down the line and i think im finally over her! Ive heard that she's had 2 bf's since me, on and off! slut.
Spending time with my friends/family really has helped, went on a date with another girl a week ago but that didnt kind of work out, but oh well. im fine at the moment being single, doing what i want to do, and hanging out with my mates! gud gud
Yep. Then someone'll roll along and it will work out