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How do you make/keep friends?
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I have just moved away from home to University and I know nobody. I thought I would find it hard to make friends, but I have found that it is really hard!
I have spoken to a lot of people, and we had reaosnably good conversations, but then tonight, most of the people staying where I am have gone out for the night, and i am stuck in.
I don't want to go through my whole University career alone - does anyone have tips on how to keep and make new friends?
Thanks
John Lantock
ME = :crying:
I have spoken to a lot of people, and we had reaosnably good conversations, but then tonight, most of the people staying where I am have gone out for the night, and i am stuck in.
I don't want to go through my whole University career alone - does anyone have tips on how to keep and make new friends?
Thanks
John Lantock
ME = :crying:
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I suppose meeting people isn't that hard, but moving into a friendship is what i find hard.
good luck
will do the trick if they understand the funny.
Oh yeah, and remember - not only are intoxicants your friend, but they'll help you make them.
when I got to my seatings I heard a "hey there..." behind me, and I knew it was all cool.
Just take all your courage together and talk to someone, nobody is going to tear your head off, since like lipsy said: Hardly anyone has friends there and are actually HAPPY if you approach them and make convo.
There was one guy in my flat who was quieter than everybody else and didn't really come out of his shell till a couple of months before the end, and he totally regrets it to this day.
It is scary in first year when you don't know anyone or don't know who you're gonna be living with, but if you just take a deep breath and enjoy yourself, then you'll have the absolute time of your life :thumb:
simple as that.
Go and bang on some doors til you find a couple of people who will be sitting in their rooms just like you are.
Go to the common room/bar/whatever you've got, kitchen even and see who's there. If you chat to enough randomers you'll find some who grow to be friends.
For now near is good, hunt down those near you and go to places like freshers fayre together.
How come you don't have anyone to go with? Do you work/study? Perhaps you could invite one of them out for a drink, or ask them for suggestions of where to go and which night' best? followed by "that sounds good", what you doin next (whatever day they said was best) and "fancy showing me the place?"
ETA: if you are in halls, a good way to get a seat with a group of people who look like they're having fun is to take over a sharable bottle of something, or a bag of sweets/lollies if you don't really drink alchohol... you'd get a seat and a convo next to me for a shot of vodka and a handfull of dolly mix anyway.