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lying ex-boyfriend
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My ex-boyfriend has recently got himself a new girlfriend, which is fine by me. I thought I'd feel a bit crap about it, and I kinda sat there waiting for the feeling (lol, actually sat there), but it hasn't really bothered me. It almost feels like closure in a way. Like he's not available anymore, so there's no point in thinking about him anymore.
But that's not the problem. We broke up because he cheated on me...twice. However, he's told his new girlfriend that we broke up for another reason, which is kinda long and complicated, but comes off with me looking like the bad guy. He only told me that he's lied to her, because she goes to college with me, and he was worried I'd meet her and tell her the truth. So he asked me not to.
I was fuming! :mad: why should i lie for him, making me look bad after all he put me through?!? I can't believe he had the cheek to ask me. Anyways, I don't know if he's told her the truth or not yet. But If I do meet her round college do you think I shoudl tell her? Part of me wants to, to clear my name, and also to get back at him. But, I'm nice really, and I know it would hurt if I told her. And I suppose I'll end up looking like the 'medaling ex'. But rarrr! He shouldn't be allowed to lie about me like that
But that's not the problem. We broke up because he cheated on me...twice. However, he's told his new girlfriend that we broke up for another reason, which is kinda long and complicated, but comes off with me looking like the bad guy. He only told me that he's lied to her, because she goes to college with me, and he was worried I'd meet her and tell her the truth. So he asked me not to.
I was fuming! :mad: why should i lie for him, making me look bad after all he put me through?!? I can't believe he had the cheek to ask me. Anyways, I don't know if he's told her the truth or not yet. But If I do meet her round college do you think I shoudl tell her? Part of me wants to, to clear my name, and also to get back at him. But, I'm nice really, and I know it would hurt if I told her. And I suppose I'll end up looking like the 'medaling ex'. But rarrr! He shouldn't be allowed to lie about me like that
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Ive read alot of peoples relationship problems in the sun newspaper, and read the professional reply it gets.
By looking at your problem, go for it, tell her the truth, it may piss him off but what the hell! Why should he be happy, and you not be happy?
Go girl!!
That being said, I do think you should tell her. Why should you have to lie for him?
But if you just walk up to her and blurt it out, you'll look like a right dick and she probably wont believe you.
^My thoughts
If not, theres no need to say anything, you'll only come across as the bitter ex who wants to split them up because you want him for yourself.
I'd personally be really nice to her too, to show your not the bad guy. She's more likely to question your ex's accusations that way.
just dont make yourself sound like a bitch
As Blah said, if she asks directly about why you broke up then feel free to either tell the truth or say you'd rather not speak about it. Otherwise just leave well alone, if he's lying to her already then their relationship may well implode and his true colours be exposed sooner rather than later -- even without your input.
nah, I think you're probably right briggi. If he's lying to her already, it can't be a very big deal to him anyways, and the future ain't bright. But if she asks, not that she would because I don't even know her, I would just be honest and tell her exactly what he's like!
LOL! that's fantastic.
Anyway. Well, it's up to you if you want to make him look worse, or if you just swallow it down and try to be happy for him. I don't even think she will ask you, but if you think it's going to be a rumor and might narrow down friendship/relationships with people, because they think you are <insert something bad here>, then go up to her, "I know you won't believe me, since I am supposed to be the angry ex, but he cheated twice on me, that's why we seperated."
Best advice on here... !
If youve told your friends at college when he first cheated on you, then im sure the truth will get round to her pretty soon.
This is very true. I would just tell her if she happens to ask you. If you just walk up to her and say what happened, then like it has already been mentioned a few times, then she might get the impression that you're the ex who wants her boyfriend back and can't move on and forgot him/accept that he's moved on and is now with someone else.