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People constantly letting you down last minute
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This weekend I was meant to be having a friend come to stay and we had all stuff planned, was looking forward to it as haven't done much lately. Have sorted my flat out so there was space and it was clean and didn't stay out too late/get drunk last night so I could be up early today.
First thing this morning I get a text saying she isn't coming. This is not the first time she has done this.
The thing is, I feel like quite a few of my friends cancel on me last minute, saying they're tired/have to work/ill. I can understand it occasionally but it never seems to happen to anyone else.
Just having a grumble really. Do you have friends that cancel on you and does it piddle you off majorly?
First thing this morning I get a text saying she isn't coming. This is not the first time she has done this.
The thing is, I feel like quite a few of my friends cancel on me last minute, saying they're tired/have to work/ill. I can understand it occasionally but it never seems to happen to anyone else.
Just having a grumble really. Do you have friends that cancel on you and does it piddle you off majorly?
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Exactly. I've had a few friends and i've learnt my lesson so don't bother to ask them to anything. With them it's been more of a 'keeping their options open' kinda thing, in case a better offer comes up.
Might go out tonight but I only know one of the people going and I always feel a bit awkward when there's loads of people I don't know.
I also have a friend who does it now, but I have learnt to rise above it. I also notice she does it to a lot of people, so I know it's not just me!
It tends to mean they have no respect for you.
I did it once, because I was about to go out, but facing horrible diarrhea. That's a good excuse. I hate it if people leave me down with no reasonable... erm reason.
If it happens 2-3 times, with a "I am tired" or "My boyfriend phoned me, to tell me he has time tonight", I wouldn't bother much with this person anymore.
I def have one friend like this, who tries to keep everyone happy, does care but is so rubbish at time-keeping she'd be late for her own funeral. I just arrange a time earlier than I really mean, but she's catching on!
now i have had enough and I'm not going to struggle to arrange to do things with her, if she wants to spend time with me, she can organise it.
Close friends don't do that, and whilst its a bit shite to be valued so little, at least you know where you stand.