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relationship with my manager
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hello everyone,
I am new on here so just wanted to say hello and hope you can all give me some great advice.
For the past year me and one of the department managers at work have become really close and flirt like mad, we have been out on several occasions on the quiet for meals and the odd weekend away. Its not all just been about sex we talk on the phone a lot and do coupley things from time to time. I am really starting to like him loads and he says that he feels the same way. I am only 20 but he is 32 and has just got his divorce sorted. My friends say he is only after the chase and will use me and won't want me once he knows he can have me and to think about my job as it could get awkward and nasty. I can't help the way I feel I just want to go for it with him I don't know what to do for the best. My friends think I am mad so I can't really talk to them. What would you do in my situation?
I am new on here so just wanted to say hello and hope you can all give me some great advice.
For the past year me and one of the department managers at work have become really close and flirt like mad, we have been out on several occasions on the quiet for meals and the odd weekend away. Its not all just been about sex we talk on the phone a lot and do coupley things from time to time. I am really starting to like him loads and he says that he feels the same way. I am only 20 but he is 32 and has just got his divorce sorted. My friends say he is only after the chase and will use me and won't want me once he knows he can have me and to think about my job as it could get awkward and nasty. I can't help the way I feel I just want to go for it with him I don't know what to do for the best. My friends think I am mad so I can't really talk to them. What would you do in my situation?
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I think he's out for a bit of young pussy to see if he's still got it, to be quite honest. Expect to be used and discarded.
I'd stay well clear if you have any dignity.
Three words:
Mid. Life. Crisis.
I think you would be daft to go to bed with him expecting more than a porking, but if a porking is all you want then you might as well have a little fun.
I don't think that's necessarily true, she's young and there's no harm in having fun with someone you find mildly attractive if all you want is a bit of no-strings fun.
If you see yourself getting hurt when he moves on to another girl then don't touch him with a bargepole, but if you just want to jump his bones and enjoy it whilst it lasts then I don't see why you shouldn't.
The only worry I would have is work- you would find it hard to work with him once it ended, and the power of gossip shouldn't be underestimated. It can make the working environment very very uncomfortable.
If you're after no-strings fun you would be better off not screwing the crew, to be quite honest, and I think you are deluding yourself if you think it will last the distance.
Sex and dating doesn't always have to be about love, but be aware of the possible repercussions of shagging your boss. If you go into it with your eyes open I don't see why you shouldn't have a bit of fun with someone you fancy the look of.
Personally I would avoid it because your colleagues will make you look like a slapper, and you could get fun outside of work without having to deal with the shit from people at work.
It's not all about love.
No-one at work has suspected anything so far and to be honest they gossip about something and someone different every week wouldn't like to be know as the store slapper though.