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do you think that im too young for this?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Well im 13 and my boyfriend is 15. We have been ging out for 3 months. He thinks we are ready for sex and other things like sex.fingering me abd other things that involve sex,
we are very mature for our ages. But do u think im too young for this stuff? please help please!

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    JsTJsT Posts: 18,268 Skive's The Limit
    I'm gonna have to say Probably yes.

    I think your not old enough, Sex is illegal until you are 16 (UK Anyway, you'll have to check) and if your boyfreind were to have sex with you, he would be breaking the law. You say your boyfriend thinks that you are ready, are you??

    My advice is not to at the moment, if he serious about the realationship, he should understand.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It can only be your choice, is he worth it? By asking us, you don't seem ready.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the age at which you choose to do anything is really your choice.... but sex under 16 is illegal (unless there are differernt laws where u live)

    If u feel that you are ready, and WANT to do these things,then go ahead, but be aware of the consequences. Not all underage sex goes smoothly :S Lxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i wud say yes. & i thought i woz mature at 13, but honestly lovey ur only young, u'll prob regret it. wen u round dat age u think it cool 2 shag and woteva, but then as u get older, like i am now!, u realise wot mistakes uve mad, and its 2 late by then.
    3 mts aint even dat long, i think if u r guna do it, then u shud atleast wait a while longer.
    is he a virgin?
    luv H.xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lurvlylucy, everyone knows sex under 16 is illegal but a third of people have sex under 16 so what is wrong with it. Also whats the point waiting until you are 16 you might not still be together by then as most young relationships don't last long.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't do it just cos he says you're both ready, only do it if YOU'RE ready. But I still think 13 is really young for that kinda thing but everyone's different. I know I wouldn't have done it at 13.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Heaven Scent, if you wouldn't have done it at 13 then you must have been mad. Loads of people die before they are 16 anyway. There is nothing to sex so I don't know what people make such a big fuss about it for.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I just don't think it's something you can abuse. At 13 I was nowhere near ready for sex, you're still a kid really. But I guess now every1 grows up quicker, but don't go making out I'm weird or anything cos I would never even thought of having sex just cos every1 else was! And I think you'll find most people wait til they're a bit older anyway...but as I said before it depends on the person.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    take it from someone who knows WAIT even if u r careful accidents happen and your left with a bundle of joy and a cloud of dust from him and even if u dont whos to say you'll still be together in the near future,wait till u find the 'one' that you want to be with forever or at least will wait till you're ready
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In my opinion if you are ready for sex at 13 then i don't see y not - but you have to be yourself, and dont let your bf force you into it!

    the only thing i would advise is underage sex of any kind just be very careful - the younger you are the less you will be able to cope with the hassle if something goes wrong and ya get pregnant.

    so make sure it dont!
    its not illegal til u get caught :P
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by dragonfly:
    Heaven Scent, if you wouldn't have done it at 13 then you must have been mad. Loads of people die before they are 16 anyway. There is nothing to sex so I don't know what people make such a big fuss about it for.

    dragonfly, you are talking utter shit. you are totally wrong. this is a teenage advice site, they dont come here to be told to have sex at 13 in case they DIE before they are 16!! can you not see how ridiculous that sounds??

    can i just give a general piece of advice here...

    DO NOT LISTEN TO DRAGONFLY, HE TALKS SHIT.

    now to answer the question...

    cutie, i think if you have to ask whether you're ready, and that you sound worried... then you're not. 13 isnt a common age to have sex at... the average is about 17 i think in this country anyway, and id imagine australia is similar. if you dont feel comfortable doing these things, then dont. if this guy is decent and worth keeping as you boyfriend, he'll understand. if he pressures you into stuff, then DONT give in if you still feel you're not ready, you'll probably regret it.

    its a lot better to wait until you feel comfortable in the relationship and feel that you're ready for this type of thing, than to just go ahead anyway to please your bf maybe or because of peer pressure or something like that, and to regret it later on.

    sex IS a big deal.... especially the first time. and imho, 13 is too young to do it. far too many people regret their first time.. either thinking they were too young looking back at it, wrong person, wrong situation, etc. im one of the lucky ones in that i was in a loving relationship with someone when i lost my virginity...and im so glad that was the case and i didnt lose it to any old bloke who was just using me for sex, or that i was too young.

    think carefully about this before you do something you might regret. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    oh, and you only need to post things once, we'll see it, and if you double post things then it can wind people up. just so's you know for next time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by dragonfly:
    Heaven Scent, if you wouldn't have done it at 13 then you must have been mad. Loads of people die before they are 16 anyway. There is nothing to sex so I don't know what people make such a big fuss about it for.


    Karla, Dom, anyone....can we have this idiot banned before he causes someone some serious mental or physical damage?

    Sex at 13 is NOT OK, it happens, yes, but it shouldnt. Listen to people who have said they regretted it, and hang on. And DONT be pressurised by your bf, if he even remotely cares about you he will take no for an answer.

    It matters not who won or lost, but how you place the blame.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree totally with kermit, and with GFM.
    Originally posted by dragonfly:
    Also whats the point waiting until you are 16 you might not still be together by then as most young relationships don't last long.

    Surely thats a reason for not having sex- it should be with someone you love and can see yourself having a future with.

    Dont let you're b/f's opinions affect your own, just because he says you're ready for sex doesnt mean you are.

    Im quite a lot older than you (16), and still a virgin (and yes dragonfly, it is normal), i considered having sex with my last b/f after 7 months together. I didnt and looking back im so glad that i didnt.

    All im saying if wait until you're 100% sure, and if you have no definate opinion, then DONT.

    Contary to what dragonfly said, sex is special.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    GFM!! You talk a lot of sence!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Theres some good advice for u cutie.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Lxxx
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by lurvlylucy:
    GFM!! You talk a lot of sence!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    thank you <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    im sure everyone will realise that im actually insane one day though <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    sugar&spice, thats exactly what i was thinking about it being a reason NOT to have sex... but my post was quite long as it was <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey. if u were ready u'd know it and wudn't need 2 ask us peops on ere. u'll know wen u r ready. good luck wiv ur decision makin
    luv Kiz
    i am the emotionless freak who dusnt make sense on a good day
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