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Ever get the feeling that you get attracted to the wrong people?
It always seems to happen to me, I was sort of seeing this lad for a few weeks and after sleeping together (again) we sort of drifted apart and after a weekend of having parties at my house on noticing how everyone was coupled off except me sort of depressed me slightly and made me think 'shite, need a relationship again', so I got myself tarted up as usual and headed off with my friends to this place called the 'Boom Boom Room' and took too many chemicals as usual...
After a few hours I decided to chill out and relax when the girl came over and sat next to me, she asked my name and said she'd heard loads about me... she then asked if she could ask us a personal question (I already knew what this was going to be, its so predictable if she's heard about me) and so asked me if I was 'bi', fair enough and answered it, she came striaght back at me telling me how she's either bi or bi-cirious which instantly got me interested. So we spent the night dancing together, talking and really clicking and occasionally kissing as well and swapped phone numbers at the end of the night.
Anyway... we finally met up again last night still getting on great and we went into my bedroom to chat while the rest of my mates where in the lounge mixing... the 'bi' thing gets brought up and she starts talking about which women she fancies and how shes more gay than straight, also like how she wants to sleep with a girl and if she can come to some gay clubs with me... she said she just wanted to be mates but then we started kissing again and then she went a bit strange on me...
She wasn't avoiding me, just her opinion seemed to change, not a 100% sure like what I mean its just we both felt a bit awkward and went back in to chat with my mates... when she left we just sort of lightly kissed again and she told me how she'd enjoyed herself and how she wants to meet up again...
So I'm not sure what happens now or indeed whats happening... its strange, the people I fancy either end up being my closest mates or interested in the opposite sex... lol...
It always seems to happen to me, I was sort of seeing this lad for a few weeks and after sleeping together (again) we sort of drifted apart and after a weekend of having parties at my house on noticing how everyone was coupled off except me sort of depressed me slightly and made me think 'shite, need a relationship again', so I got myself tarted up as usual and headed off with my friends to this place called the 'Boom Boom Room' and took too many chemicals as usual...
After a few hours I decided to chill out and relax when the girl came over and sat next to me, she asked my name and said she'd heard loads about me... she then asked if she could ask us a personal question (I already knew what this was going to be, its so predictable if she's heard about me) and so asked me if I was 'bi', fair enough and answered it, she came striaght back at me telling me how she's either bi or bi-cirious which instantly got me interested. So we spent the night dancing together, talking and really clicking and occasionally kissing as well and swapped phone numbers at the end of the night.
Anyway... we finally met up again last night still getting on great and we went into my bedroom to chat while the rest of my mates where in the lounge mixing... the 'bi' thing gets brought up and she starts talking about which women she fancies and how shes more gay than straight, also like how she wants to sleep with a girl and if she can come to some gay clubs with me... she said she just wanted to be mates but then we started kissing again and then she went a bit strange on me...
She wasn't avoiding me, just her opinion seemed to change, not a 100% sure like what I mean its just we both felt a bit awkward and went back in to chat with my mates... when she left we just sort of lightly kissed again and she told me how she'd enjoyed herself and how she wants to meet up again...
So I'm not sure what happens now or indeed whats happening... its strange, the people I fancy either end up being my closest mates or interested in the opposite sex... lol...
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well, 1st of all i have no clue as 2 why she is being wierd with u - sorry! but all i can say is that, u shud kinda cool it off with her, and wait to see if she texts or calls, if she does then u know she is interested. but if she dont call or text then obviously u know she isnt really interested. i know it sounds corny but one day u will meet some1 who is ur closest friend and also ur lover! and they wont be interested in the opposite sex <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> just hang in there!!
sorry if i aint been much help <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
no man is worth your tears, and the one who is wont make you cry....
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if your after percentages here its probably 70/30 women... I always get asked that by my mates, it changes depending on my mood but usually its always more women... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
... welcome to another episode of 20 questions! lol... *joke* <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
These things don't bother me I'm pretty open.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Could it be she's a bit confused and doesn't really know what she wants??
And I can sympathise, the people I was attracted to (when I was looking) either ended up close mates or interested in better-looking people.
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That's life!! That's what all the people say....
In a word - YES.
She sounds a bit odd if you ask me. I think it's very strange that she would get off with you and then say "oh, i'm not really interested in men, i'd rather have a woman."
I can't really help you though, sorry. If it was me i'd probably just avoid her.
Everything about you is how i want to be.
It also sounds like he's interested in you because you're bi, and if you're one of the few bi/gay people she knows, you can introduce her to people and places that she wouldnt have access to from her straitght mates. Does that make sense?
I think you should just cool it a bit, and see how it goes, let her make the moves about kising etc and just see what kind of relationship she wants from you.
That pics from the USH gallery innit
You look a bit like Hixxy on that photo..lol just saw the likeness then. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">|
Well.....not really but you did it to me and I don't have a clue what Energy looks like. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
- Skive <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/nogood.gif">
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Backward never
Helpful? Kash xxx
well, im bi, but if i had gone home with u, I would have ended up sleeping with u.. not going on about another girl all night... unless she was there with us of course in which case things would go rather differently...
Lol.. someone with the same mentality as me, quality comment... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
or perhaps she feels she can open up to u 'bout her sexuality more cos ur bi too...???
Probably, aparently tho she hasn't shut up about me all week and her friends say she'd now well interested, I'm seeing her tonight so fingers-crossed... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
you look like hixxy
lol, skive you should be hung, drawn and quartered for that remark you cheeky sod <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
[This message has been edited by Justin Credible (edited 17-08-2001).]
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By the way I am totally straight and can't understand why some people are bi.
Im straight to but I understand why people r bi....its coz they like both men and women lol! Whats so hard to understand?
so explain to me agian why ur straight? preferably so as i can understand it.
If there's anything more important than my ego around here, i want it caught and shot now
Why? Sure, they dont have to sleep with both, but if you're attracted to both sexes then why should you only sleep with one?
And if you're attracted to both sexes equally would you have to choose? how? Would you see someone you were attracted to and say "oh no, i cant sleep with them because they're male/female"
Thats a really homophobic attitude and thats what i find really hard to understand.
<IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"> eugh, people like u infuriate me!!!
so ur telling me u find all unnatural things offensive and hard to understand? u find GM food offensive? computers? air travel?
do u have a mobile phone? do u find it hard to understand why people would want a mobile phone? im so sorry u dont see it as natural. if i was that shallow i'd kill myself for the sake of society. ur a sad, homophobic wanker who know one likes. u've openly admitted u surf BBs in order to pick up woman to get sex. mate, fuck off, really, ur sad sick ways have been found out and ur not welcome here any longer.
leave us in peace.
If there's anything more important than my ego around here, i want it caught and shot now
I do however understand that some people fancy both sexes therefore why should they hold back. I have the upmost respect for people who understand their sexuality and have their head sorted. If it makes them happy then fair play to them.
But it is not bad that you like or are in love with the same sex as you.
but follow your heart
But not here.
Justin, what happened, good or bad?
It's easy to look lost in thought if it's not something you usually do.
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personally I can't understand what people see inmembers of the opposite sex, but it doesn't bother me. Some of my best friends are straight.
Sorry its taken a while, I've been off on leave since thursday last week..
Right whats happened, erm.. we had a talk on sunday night and agreed to be friends who do stuff but nothing attached if you get my meaning, with me leaving and all...
It was strange, we ended up all over each other most of the evening and got in trouble by one of the bouncers to carm the fruitiness down on the floor, both completely wasted messing bout with ice cubes and stuff, quite a laugh...
Its going to be one of those mates/seeing each other and stuff with no strings attached. I can live with that, I am leaving after all and she's happy...
Its a strange one but then I guess bi people just are.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">