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I dunno what to do.....

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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I dunno what to do, I tried to sleep but I cant. I just need to get all this out.

I'm really, really sad, b coz I met this girl on the net (yeah I know). We just clicked instantly, we talked we met, we hugged it was really good.

C the thing is, I'm really shy, I am ugly, theres no point denying it. But I try to make the best of what I got. But that girl I met was really special to me, even though it sounds daft.

The weekend after we met, she finished with me. I am still sure its coz she didnt fancy me, but she says she needs time to get over her ex and shit like that, and we all had a big row about it.

Then I started feeling better, felt like I got over her, and I turned my thoughts to this other girl I know and liked. The thing is, I've found out the other girl has a new bf and I've just started feeling crap all over again.

I just dont want to carry on ne more....

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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    ((((((((confused male)))))))))

    it sounds to me like youre depressed (god how many replies have i made like this lately?) it sounds like you have really low self esteem to think that youre ugly and everything, im sure youre not. i know people who think theyre ugly and that could not be further from the truth!

    im too tired to make much sense at the mo, i just wanted to make a reply to you. are you still friends with the girl from the net? give her time, if shes just broken up with a guy its prob too soon to start another relationship, she might be on the rebound and wanting to protect you fromg etting hurt by ending it with you now rather than waiting and realising it was just rebound. in a while after shes got ove rher ex she might want to go out with you. you just gotta give it time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    and as for the other girl, unrequited love/lust etc sucks, believe me i experienced it all my time at secondary school and didnt have a boyfriend at all until after i left. if this girl has a nwe bf i think you have to try and forget her. but dont give up on your net girl, at least stay friends with her as you get on so well <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    good luck!
    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Don't put too much store on what you think this girl MAY or MAY NOT have thought about you. It sounds like you had a great day together so she must've enjoyed your company. She might have very valid reasons for not wanting to continue with you - including not being over her ex.

    Don't put yourself down about your looks etc either. Most of us never see ourselves as others see us - and you know what a pain those people are who keep telling us how wonderful they are - so there's nothing wrong with being reserved.

    Also, don't be too much of a hurry to be in a relationship - sometimes girls can almost smell our desperation. Just be yourself and let things develop slowly if needs be ...

    Please don't get so depressed that you have thoughts about ending things. No matter what you think of yourself, you're special and unique and I'm sure your friends and family love you very much. A star is there for all of us to see and share - so never turn yours out. Or there will be a gaping hole in the world ...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You seem to be incredibly over sensitve and prone to regard disappointment as the norm, but still you take it badly.

    Shit happens mate, and you can't dwell on it for too long otherwise there'd be so much shit happening in your life you'd just go take a long walk of a short plank.

    You have to find a way to get over it. I would suggest something, but can't think of anything at the moment.
    Cos i'm thinking about a brand new hope, one i've never known, and where it goes, cos now I know it's all that wanted.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Listen i know ur depressed now but give it time, I know you hav had a bad experience but dont let it get you down. You hav got to forget the past, look to the future, some where out there is your soul mate, so dont do anything silly cuz then u'll never find her, she is out there u hav just got to look at bit harder. If you ever feel this bad again look in your heart and remember what i've said and smile.
    Hope I've helped
    luv me
    xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    You seem to be incredibly over sensitve and prone to regard disappointment as the norm, but still you take it badly.

    Shit happens mate, and you can't dwell on it for too long otherwise there'd be so much shit happening in your life you'd just go take a long walk of a short plank.

    You have to find a way to get over it. I would suggest something, but can't think of anything at the moment.


    gotta agree there. but your story made me sooo sad!
    ((((((confusedmale))))))
    lots of love mate,
    whizzy xxx


    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
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