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right, heres something rather embarrassing. to fulfill one of my boyfs fantasies i bought a massive dildo. i dont quite know how to set about using it. i can get it about an inch inside me then it hurts. i really really want to use it, but will it damage me? im not worried about stretching. should i just grin and bear it and shove the whole thing in or if i do it gradually a bit more each time will it eventually feel ok?
well, thats a horrible question and im not even sure if anyone here will be in a position to answer but its worth a shot.
well, thats a horrible question and im not even sure if anyone here will be in a position to answer but its worth a shot.
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relax too
Almost every post is replied to with "dont do anything if HE tells you to do it"
"dont do anything that turns HIM on with out you" "dont do anything full fucking stop"
Right, she has stated, not once, but twice that it TURNS HER ON, and that she wants to do it. You may not beleive her, or what ever, but hows about giving the girl some bloody advice instead of assuming this is something her boyfriend has made her do...
As for my advice, well im not a girl, but id say try some lube, and good luck it sounds fun.
Try not to listen to the prudes on this site, you may aswell go elsewhere for advice to be honest...
Kasia - sounds to me like you need to invest in a good lubricant. There are plenty to choose from, my own personal choice are silicone based ones as a little goes a long way, and I find them much longer lasting than water-based ones, and they don't go sticky. Only drawback is that they can't be used with silicone based toys, so it's worth checking out what is compatible with materials.
Relaxation is also key. I feel more comfortable trying new things with my boyfriend than without, but it depends on the person. A glass of wine and a warm shower beforehand wouldn't go amiss.
Also a good idea to get used to having larger objects inside you, sometimes it's best to start off small, and work up to bigger sizes so you can enjoy it, take your time and most importantly, not do yourself any undue damage.
HTH
Yes women can get a baby out of that hole, but it doesnt mean its easy, and most women scream and need painkillers for it,not to mention tear a bit too, so i think the childbirth argument isnt really a good one.
the chances are you might not be able physically to fulfil this fantasy even if you want to (depending on the size of the dildo) maybe hed be turned on by you just playing with it and licking it etc?
Fair point, especially in some extreme toy porn movies, they can be very very wide.
But as SCC said, sometimes it's not possible to physically carry certain fantasties out, and knowing when to stop is important.
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Only do it if your happy really only needs saying once, tbh most of the people on this board are fairly empowered so could live without the lecture.
OP: I assume your boyfriend fingers you, one way to make the dildo a lot easier would be to increase the number of fingers he uses and the frequency, they are usually easier to get used to than an inanimate object. When you do try, make sure you are really relaxed, so make sure your not going to interrupted and that your on something that it's not a problem you get lube on (be it artificial or your own). Build up to it slowly, lube yourself and the toy. Get your inch in, then out, in and out, until that gts comfortable and gradually more and more will slide in.