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Long-Distance relationships.
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Does anyone think that long-distance relationships can work, is it right to move away from home just to be with them, Come one give me your ideas.
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Sorry to be another negative postee, but I have also tried and failed several times with LDR's. However, I am sure that there are people out there with success stories!
As for moving to be with them: you have to ask yourslef 2 questions:
1) Are they worth it (i.e. what do you feel for them)
2) Would you miss and could you afford to miss everything that you would give up - both now and over the long-term?
Good luck
Regards
Alan London
I guess that makes it easier (and he tells me that the sex is absolutely scorching hot ...
[This message has been edited by sarah21 (edited 12-08-2000).]
U must all be wrong!
this isn't fair.
my boyfriend is going to uni soon.
it's not 2 far away and we r dtermined 2 make it work.
obviously i am scared out of my mind. not that he will cheat or anything. but that i will miss him so much.
isn't there anyone out there who can say something reassuring 2 me?
please.
i love him loads.
Love from the ChunkyMonkey
The first month is not too bad as all these phone calls, letters and tears are really romantic. But if you don't have that really special bond between you two, you'll soon start forgetting each other.
My ex-boyfriend and I nearly cried our eyes out when he was going away for a month (only 30 days that is!) By the time he returned I met someone much more appealing than him and it was over. Sad but true.
not true. not true.
it WILL work
and i aren't just being naive
i KNOW.
Your relationship will work if you both want it to. When bf goes to uni, give it time to readjust and settle down. It's very important, though, to keep an open mind and accept that things change. Our environment acts like a stimulus. Change the enviro and you change the stimulus, and that may lead to you going seperate ways. Perhaps in your mind you need to find the balance between hope and realism.
Good luck
Blade
ps: If your bf get's a 1:1 at uni, he's not drinking enough
I dumped him a couple of years after he graduated because he turned into a mean, manipulative bastard that resorted to physical violence in an argument.
I nipped it in the bud and shortly afterwards fell in love with someone else. We have been together ever since and now have a beautiful little girl together.
Anyway, what I am saying is that long distance relationships can work if both parties are willing enough to make it happen.
My long distance relationship ended not because of the distance but because the guy became an ass-hole.
dont mean to put a downer on things, urs may last, and i hope it does.
stay happy
love ya love helly
ps how old r u if u dont mind me askin?
tonight my GF just decided to take a break, just so happens that it had become a long distance relationship. I started going out with her last winter and now she is in UNI. and I'm still working on my prerec's for the computer science course I'm going to. no matter how many times it happens to me it still hurts like a biatch every time
Why does it always seem to happen to the nice guys?
Live life, get drunk, you only live once, so who cares if you can't remember half of it?
Let me elaborate a bit: a relationship is something you build, layer by layer. If a relationship does not have a strong foundation and the two persons suddenly need to live apart, then, well, the relationship is left wobbling. The thing is that you need the other person in your life, next to you or near by in order to build a relationship. However, if the two persons know each other well enough, I think the relationship has a chance. Moreover, if the two persons are communicative, they can create a communication bridge to fill in the distance between them. This would suggest that they write or e-mail to each other regularly, sharing their thougths and feelings, their everyday lives, their worlds with each other. That would be the only way to make it work.
I once tried to sustain a long distance relationship but I did not know the guy very well and he was not communicative at all. For a communication bridge to be built it needs two people...let's just say that our "relationship" ended soon.
I tried a long distance relationship with my German girlfriend. Of course, it didn't work.
Stay in touch with each other and visit reguarley
Keep the desire up with pics vids and mystery.
Go 4 it
W_G
Take care all,
GFM