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New guy.. few concerns..
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Well I've met this new lad a while ago who is really really into me.. and I find him really attractive and cute - I was on the phone to him for 2 hours last night, although I was pretty darn drunk. I've seen him loads recently, and I'm seeing him tomorrow, which I'm really hyped about.
Thing is, I'm not hearing good things about him.. he's been with a lot of girls for his age, and he's a bit of a prick to some people. Plus he seems to be a bit into his drugs..
I'm not totally worried bout this, cos I've seen a lot of it over the last year and a half, with my ex.. but I'm worried that he'll be a bit hard to deal with when hes like that. I don't know, maybe hes all mouth, but hes a bit of a pill-head when hes out and about.
I spoke to my friend who I met him through, and she says I should take heed of what people say, but I should give him a chance. Granted, he has been completely lovely to me so far. And hes sooo gorgeous
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I'm thinkin go along with things, get to know him better, but don't get in too deep too quickly, and leave at the first sign of trouble?
Any advice? xxx
Thing is, I'm not hearing good things about him.. he's been with a lot of girls for his age, and he's a bit of a prick to some people. Plus he seems to be a bit into his drugs..
I'm not totally worried bout this, cos I've seen a lot of it over the last year and a half, with my ex.. but I'm worried that he'll be a bit hard to deal with when hes like that. I don't know, maybe hes all mouth, but hes a bit of a pill-head when hes out and about.
I spoke to my friend who I met him through, and she says I should take heed of what people say, but I should give him a chance. Granted, he has been completely lovely to me so far. And hes sooo gorgeous
.I'm thinkin go along with things, get to know him better, but don't get in too deep too quickly, and leave at the first sign of trouble?
Any advice? xxx
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He told me this before I really met him, so I don't know whether to take his word for it.
I guess my ex was the same - without the drugs.. beating people up and being a prick.. its just that no-one told me anything about him back then.
Hmm...its one of those things where I'm sure you have already made up your mind about what you are going to do.
I think you are already thinking you are gonna give it a try, I say if you are then go into it with your eyes open and the first sign of him treating you badly then turn away from it. People can and do change but just as many dont. I guess I'm just saying be sensible about it and take your time...good luck with everyting, let us know how it goes.
He's like unusually affectionate - guys are usually pretty secretive bout their feelings at first, but hes being really full on.
But I'll be cautious! I'm not as innocent as he seems to think
He just thinks hes a bit hard.. typical chavvy mentality. Kinda like bad boys
But no, I'm not being entirely serious. Beating people up for no particular reason sounds a bit fucked up, and if you're not into drugs and have had bad experiences along those lines with your ex then I would say proceed, with due care. Essentially you need to judge him for yourself by taking time to get to know him, and not go on hearsay.
Nahh its more mutual fights.. he doesn't go round pickin on innocents.
He was soo lovely to me today
So he does drugs and can handle himself - it aint a big deal. As long as he treats you alright. :thumb:
yeh i can't see why it should be a problem for her - or why it should hinder things with you. aslong as he doesn't try and get you involved when you don't want to be.