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Not cuming during sex....

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
I know this is a strange question, but do many guys out there NOT cum during sex, or does it take them a while? It's not really a big deal for me cause I just enjoy sex in general and my girlfriend is obviously happy, but the other day she was a bit upset cause it she's orgasming alot and Im not, making her think its her fault - even though she's great in bed. Last thursday and friday we had sex most of both days, about 3 hours in a row at a time, and I dont think I came, while she did 5 times, each day. I'm not trying to brag lol, but I want to cum, obviously not soon, but after a while. There's no problem when I masterbate and sometimes it only takes about 10 - 15 minutes, however she has given me blowjobs and handjobs in the past that have lasted about an hour before I cum or I just think Im never gonna cum and we stop. I enjoy the handjobs, blowjobs and sex alot more than masterbation but it takes longer. I don't understand why lol. I usually watch porn when wanking and think how great sex is while watching it, but when it comes down to it, even though I'm enjoying the sex I have, Im not climaxing as I should.

I don't want to be selfish and cum straight away etc, I love pleasuring my gf, but I think its fair that I should get a climax once in a while too, lol.

Help?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    same happens here, all you can do is reassure you enjoy it, thats normally done by your facial expressions :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not able to come

    Drink and Drugs afect this also.

    I mean prescribed drugs. Anti-Depresents can cause this but will often subside after a few months..
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, I'm the same. I can bring myself off no problem. But with a girl I find it really hard to climax.

    I don't think condoms help with me. If you lose your erection even partially, and then recover it like a couple of seconds later, then the condom seems to move somehow or alter its shape and all feeling disappears.

    But then I've never cum through normal oral either, so I don't know.

    Just reassure your girlfriend lots, and keep trying different things I guess.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    JackSkellington wrote:

    But then I've never cum through normal oral either, so I don't know.

    Just reassure your girlfriend lots, and keep trying different things I guess.


    Same with my boy. He has never come through oral alone. We used to care, but not anymore. As long as he enjoys it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Some women don't/can't manage to make a guy come via blowjob or handjob, no worries there... Handjob I guess it's because you can do it better than she does, got more training... And blowjob, well, it's a question of technics... Some manage both just fine tho...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I can make my boyfriend cum through all three, but sometimes it takes more work than others, and sometimes it just doesn't happen. I think it depends on his mindset as well as his body, last time it happened (or rather didn't) I was going away for a week, so he wasn't the happiest boy.

    Maybe try to hold off sex and masturbation for a week or so, and then go for a not-so-long session, you might find there's just a bit too much sex going on.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my boyfriend has the same problem, he can make himself cum quite easily but it takes a very long time if i try and do it. He has come during sex but only if i'm quite dry then its uncomfortable for me. he's 27 and has always had this problem. I sometimes feel a bit useless but he keeps telling me its not my falt, and i believe him
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