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I dont know if its my place to say, but i want my mum to stop wearing so much make up, or at least learn something about what works and what doesnt.
She's had it exactly the same since she was about my age, shes in a time warp.
I feel guilty for it, but it does embaress me, im not sure if it should or not. I prefer to not go out in public with her if im going to see people i know. She wears thick foundation, bright red lipstick, black or blue lined eyes with no eyeshadow, thick thick thick mascara like spiders legs, and eyebrows drawn on in a straight line. She looks like a felt tipped-clown. I feel so bad for saying that
I'd like to show her that she can wear less and look nice, or tone it down, i'd like to prove to her that she can look better, i think it would give her a confidence boost as well as stop looking so silly with the whole look she's got going on..
So what id like to know is should i say anything? Its a sensitive subject because it will involve telling her that people are probably taking the piss (which i think they are...) but i do really want to make her look nice, and i want her to feel better about herself without having to slap it on like wallpaper paste.
Thing is its tricky, *she* thinks she looks good like it, i dont know how i would make her see otherwise? Offer to give her a face makeover and take before and after photos? shes worn it like this for so long i dont think she feels a need to change. She has a youngish face for her age though and i think she could look really nice if she just had a bit of education about it!
Help!
She's had it exactly the same since she was about my age, shes in a time warp.
I feel guilty for it, but it does embaress me, im not sure if it should or not. I prefer to not go out in public with her if im going to see people i know. She wears thick foundation, bright red lipstick, black or blue lined eyes with no eyeshadow, thick thick thick mascara like spiders legs, and eyebrows drawn on in a straight line. She looks like a felt tipped-clown. I feel so bad for saying that
I'd like to show her that she can wear less and look nice, or tone it down, i'd like to prove to her that she can look better, i think it would give her a confidence boost as well as stop looking so silly with the whole look she's got going on..
So what id like to know is should i say anything? Its a sensitive subject because it will involve telling her that people are probably taking the piss (which i think they are...) but i do really want to make her look nice, and i want her to feel better about herself without having to slap it on like wallpaper paste.
Thing is its tricky, *she* thinks she looks good like it, i dont know how i would make her see otherwise? Offer to give her a face makeover and take before and after photos? shes worn it like this for so long i dont think she feels a need to change. She has a youngish face for her age though and i think she could look really nice if she just had a bit of education about it!
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but at the end of the day, i want her to look better because she wants to, not because i want her to.
I dont want to become trinny or suzanna, and start throwing away things that dont belong to me.
Maybe you could treat your mum to a makeover at one of the make-up counters in somewhere like House of Fraser/Debenhams, or maybe the body shop? If it looks good then she'll realise or if she doesn't and hates it then i'd give up and leave her be :yes:
yeh my mum wont leave the house without a face full of slap. Its really quite sad. I think she looks "*so* much better with nothing on her face!!
Its my graduation ceremony in september and im just feeling so embaressed about it, and i feel so bad for feeling embaressed of my own mum!
I might offer to give her a makeover. And do the photo thing. Cant afford to buy her any vouchers or anything though, im mega poor.
True - they do! I took my mum for a makeover at Bodyshop and they did a fab job as it was subtle, but also very pretty.
my mum would never go for anything, because they would have to take her make up off and she has such low self confidence that she wouldnt sit there with none on till they finished her, then she'd want to put her old stuff on again to go home....
so thats out of the question but thanks anyway, because in theory its a good idea!
you could always make soemthing up like "i was watching this programme and it was saying that as you get older, less is more. and it showed a woman being made over using subtle makeup and she looked really nice" and then could suggest going shopping for makeup or going to a makeup counter and getting a makeover as a treat. for all you know she might be tired with the same old look but just doesn't know how to change it.
if shes embarrassed then why not take her away for a day of pampering and throw in a makeover there, so its more private?
my friend did this with her mum recently!
Sorry to everyone with these good ideas about makeovers and stuff, but my mum would never go for one. She absolutely hates being in the spotlight.
Once again everyone, i cant actually afford to pay to take my mum on a makeover as im *completely* skint.
I just wanted to know really if its acceptible for me to be criticizing her face. And if yes then how to go about it.
The only way shes getting a makeover is if i do it myself.
We watched loadsa 'what not to wear' and she asked for my help... so I did. She now looks the best she's looked in years.
Me and my mum have always been frank with each other - tactful, but straight to the point. If she's looking rough I'll tell her and visa versa. I suppose it's not that easy to point out something if you haven't got that sort of relationship. :chin:
I suggest Clinique - they do FREE makeovers, and they did my mum's a couple of years ago and she looked fab. Why don't you say you're having a makeover and persuade her to do it with you.. like a mother/daughter pamper day?
just steal all her make up and replace it with other stuff and tie her hands behind her back so you're forced to do it.
Make a day of it and go somewhere nice and both get a lil pampered. I know you said you don't have much money, but save up for a bit and do it as a birthday present or something nice like that. Make it about both of you...you may both learn some new make-up tips.